This is a long post, but hopefully it will give you a sense of what I am searching for. Fair warning, what I am searching for may not be your cup of tea, but there are some who are satisfied by this level of intensity.

I am a 31-year old male in NYC and LA. I am quite busy with work, and am incredibly career and goal oriented, but love to have fun and blow some steam the few days I have off.

Outside of kink: On my free time, I like to work out, stay active, try to be fit, and take care of my health. I enjoy nature whether that be the beach, a mountain hike, or even a simple walk in the neighborhood. I like to read if time allows. I also enjoy exploring the food, drink, and coffee scene of any new place I visit.

Behind closed doors: BDSM, kink, D/S dynamics, ect. are very intimate, powerful, and even vulnerable experiences. It requires the utmost trust, communication, and dedication to develop. It requires opening up, letting someone in, and hopefully what results is a beautiful, satisfying, cathartic experience. It can be extremely rewarding, whether it is providing affectionate and caring aftercare at the end of an intense session, manipulating the body and mind of a submissive, to implementing small routines and tasks into everyday life as a demonstration of power exchange. This dynamic is what I am in search of.

My kinks are ever evolving. Of course, my kinks must be agreed upon with my submissive, and will never be forced or imposed upon my submissive. Time will also allow us to progress in what we experiment with, but my kinks can be intense both mentally and physically. Your mind will be confused and you will be unsure of yourself at times. Your body will be taxed, strained to the extreme, and quite frankly violated to the level that we mutually agree upon. At heart, I am a sadist and I am searching for my masochist. Your pain truly brings me pleasure, as long as the pain brings you pleasure as well.

This list is non-exhaustive, but currently some of my kinks include:

Shibari: It is such a beautiful and intricate art. Definitely something that I am hoping to explore and learn more about.

Other forms of bondage, sensory deprivation.

Outfits in private and small little accessories in public to subtly demonstrate your loyalty.

Tasks, routines, check-ins, punishments: Implementing these things to demonstrate a power exchange into everyday life as well as punishments if these things are not fulfilled. These are powerful, non-sexual, but just as appealing methods of BDSM.

Free use

CNC

Anal

Facefucking

Deepthroating

Impact play

Breath play

Spit play

Edging

Orgasm control/denying

What I am looking for:

A female submissive, who is truly willing to serve.

A masochist for both the mind and body. After an intense session, you may end as a limp and bruised body on the ground covered with tears, spit, and perhaps even a touch of blood or vomit.

At least age 18, willing to verify if needed.

Willing to verify identity early on as to not waste each other’s time.

Can be if varying levels of experience, as long as willing to explore and try new things.

A good head on her shoulders - has a career, future, or working towards one.

A casual or long-term dynamic, simply state what your intention is. It is perfectly fine if the intent is not known at this current time.

For me, kink and BDSM is a very therapeutic and cathartic form of expression. It is often misunderstood and stigmatized, but I find it to be such a beautiful experience. I hope these sentiments resound for you as well.

All of this may not be for you, but we can talk and figure out where in the spectrum works best for the both of us if we are compatible. In the meantime, I am hoping to get to know you and learn more about you. Tell me more about yourself. Tell me what you think of the things I have said above. Please provide a thoughtful response. Hopefully this can be the start of something meaningful and fulfilling.