Hey there! I’m 31 years old from Texas, but currently live in London

A bit about my appearance first, I am an average dude. I have been going to the gym every day for a bit now, trying to become a more athletic and stronger person for myself. I have blue eyes, blondish hair, and I am about 5’11”. Not six foot but close enough for shoes to make me 6’.

I am just an average guy. I have a college degree and working on my masters degree. I love to play video games, workout, go to museums, and travel. If we decide to be together, you better get a passport quick because we are seeing the world. I am a nerd, like a big one. I can have debates on the current life of geopolitics or how the Jedi counsel brought themselves down and the Sith didn’t really need to do anything. I don’t drink or smoke mostly for my health stuff, I don’t mind if you do.

Kinks: I have been in the kink community for just over 11 years now (good god). I am considered a soft dom/pleasure dom in regard to how I treat my partner. My ideal thing is I’ll use and abuse you then cuddle you and give you ice cream. Aftercare is MANDATORY with me and not a recommendation. So if you don’t want to be dotted on after you get completely abused, then you can stop here. I believe that bdsm can expand to 24/7 lifestyle with the ideas I have, but that takes trust that will build over time. I want to get to know YOU first before YOU give me your submission. I have to earn that, I’m not going to ask for it. The kink list ranges but the big ones are orgasm control, sadism, free use, breeding, and bondage. Overall, I’d say that I’m an experimentalist as I am still learning, and will continue to learn (as I believe that I should never stop learning), all the kinks that are out there. There are others but those are the big ones. Limits are piss (soft limit as I haven’t tried it yet) and scat (hard limit).

A big thing I like is communication. I will always be the good morning and good night texts. There will never not be a day/night you don’t get those because those are required for me. They are my daily check in to you, a potential partner, to say im alive and thinking of you. If that’s too much, then the door is the other way. Second, while any time difference can be a struggle for some, it means nothing to me. I will literally stay up to FaceTime you and ask all about your day and then train you before you eat your dinner (most likely the one I ordered for you to be delivered to your place). Finally, I’m a kind of all over the world right now. I say that because I don’t have a “home”. I have been bouncing around the world for different jobs for my work and that has left me a bit of a gypsy in that regard. This means that relocation will be a mutual thing between us. Meaning that if you have your roots established somewhere that you want to stay, so be it. If you want to move across the globe, sweet! Regardless, communication is my top priority to ANY relationship so don’t expect the usual bare minimum. My bare minimum is keeping my standards high to be a better partner for you. If I’m not doing that, CALL ME OUT.

I feel like I should go into the red flags of myself. One of the things I pride myself in is my ability to self evaluate and be self aware. I feel like any dom should be able to do this because if they can’t identify their own problems, then how can they be a true leader? I do have trust issues from my last relationship. I have been doing much better about it and have learned that my trust issues shouldn’t stem to my partner and I firmly believe that I have gotten better at this. I have a tendency to be clingy. I like the idea of having my person and I want to spend the free time (limited as it may be at times) to be with them. This means I like the idea of them being around, talking to them during free time, and have them around me. I do know the importance of having their own time and I want to establish a great communication so that I know if my partner is overstimulated and can’t handle it right now. I have learned that as long as I am told how my partner feels, I take it at face value. Finally, my last big thing that I have been working on is my mental state. I have been going through up and downs due to a lot of stuff in my life. Sometimes, that can make me shut down and not want to talk to anyone. I have gotten better about it, but I haven’t had a longer term partner to be able to test that theory and have some feedback on if it worked.

I apologize for the very long post, I hope that this will find someone who wants something more serious rather than just one offs. If you’d like to chat, please feel free! I hope you all have a great weekend!!