I’m Paul, 38, a leader who thrives on taking charge. I believe in support, respect, and understanding, and I take aftercare seriously, ensuring my partner feels valued, seen, and cared for.

If you’re looking for strict monogamy or a 24/7 dynamic, this might not be the best fit for you. I have open views on relationships and enjoy session-based fun without the constraints of exclusivity.

Communication. I’m a strong believer in clear, verbal communication throughout a session. Connection and alignment are paramount, and I’m open to creative storytelling or roleplay to bring added depth and excitement. That said, I’m not the type to dive in headfirst — I value the process of getting to know each other, building trust, and exploring the best possible dynamic together.

I also don’t expect constant back-and-forth communication throughout the day. I prefer a partner who can negotiate and dedicate time for sessions, ensuring our attention is fully focused. Asynchronous, detailed messaging works perfectly to keep things aligned when life gets busy.

Currently, I’m looking for an online dynamic only, but I’m open to traveling in the future for session-based fun once the connection feels right.

Me. Standing at 5'11" (181 cm), weighing 160 lbs (74 kg), with broad shoulders and a defined, athletic build, I’ve been told I’m conventionally attractive. I have blue eyes, thick dark hair, and a presence that’s often described as confident. What might surprise you is that I can be both confident and a little shy (awkward) at the same time. That shy side, however, completely disappears during intimate moments or in the middle of a session — it’s when I’m most in my element.

Balance. I’m married, and my wife is aware of my curiosity about the lifestyle. Transparency is important. I’m based in the GMT 2 timezone and believe in balancing curiosity with practicality, ensuring mutual understanding of boundaries and time.

Atmoshpere. To me, a session is like stepping into a theater. The details matter — whether it’s outfit control, lingerie, or an intentional atmosphere with scents and lighting. I love building anticipation and setting the tone for what’s to come.

Kinks. The list is long, and I’m sure I haven’t discovered everything yet, but here are a few things that are interesting to me and hopefully to you as well: outfit control, heels, lingerie, makeup, collars, oral worship, servitude, discipline, and the intense intimacy of eye contact. I enjoy both longer, immersive sessions that evolve naturally and shorter, high-intensity encounters.

While I’m open to exploring new territory, I have firm limits: no vore, gore, feet, diapers, taboo, toilet play, or excessive pain. Limits go both ways, and mutual respect is non-negotiable.

Outside. Beyond this lifestyle, I enjoy wines, movies, working out, basketball, art, and design. My music tastes are eclectic, ranging from jazz and funk to hip-hop, classic and deep house, and sophisti-pop from the early 80s and 90s.

You. Age and experience are not the most important factors for me. I’m aiming to connect with someone between 25 and 40 years old who reads my description and feels that I could be a great fit for them. What matters most is your willingness to engage, explore, and build a connection rooted in mutual respect and shared curiosity.

I deeply appreciate partners who take care of themselves and their bodies. If we’re talking about sessions in real life, I tend to gravitate toward partners on the petite or fit spectrum. This preference isn’t about judgment but rather about ensuring I can fully embody the physical dominance I enjoy.

Above all, I’m looking for someone open-minded and communicative, ready to explore new depths together with confidence and mutual respect. If this resonates with you, I’d love to connect and hope to hear from some of you soon.

P.