“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.”

I love the way someone who is much better with words than I am captured this state of mind that is so irresistibly attractive to me. I love that wildness, that ability to be so true and so uncompromising regarding the deepest needs and desires.

My life is good and stable. I have a respectable career and I am in a stable relationship that has become rather vanilla over the years. Against this settled background, there is a clear sense of something missing for me. I am dominant and I want BDSM to be part of my life. I have been in a number of intense BDSM based dynamics in the past and as I grow older, I realise that this part is too important in my life for me to miss out on it. I have a strong view that many of us are just wired that way and that we need to find a good safe way to live that side.

I am looking for a woman who ideally is in similar circumstances. I don’t want to be destructive in anybody’s life so kindness, trustworthiness, reliability and discretion are most important to me. I would like to find someone who like me yearns for a long deep kinky connection, something that we can live in whatever form we decide feels right over many years. Getting to know another is important for me, the intimacy makes the BDSM side fulfilling.

I have many interests kinkwise that I am happy to discuss. I I enjoy control, play around servitude and humiliation, restraints, the raw intensity and the mental side very much.

I offer traits that I am looking for myself, I am reliable and kind. I am also quite experienced, I understand people, I am smart and educated and will offer thoughts and conversation. I have a high sex drive and plenty of the perverse sexual energy and lust that makes this kind of setup worth living for.

You age, experience level or current life situation are not important for me. If you are interested, tell me about yourself, your vanilla self and your kinky self.