I miss cooking for someone after a long week, or someone who would want to go see a movie in the theater, or someone who is just content with a walk in the park with some hot bevvies after a fresh snowfall. I've been in the community for a bit now, and I've been having fun with some people from reddit for sure, but I'm gonna be honest: I feel like I'm missing a side of intimacy that I'm really starting to crave, which is on the romantic side of things.

To be super honest, I'm very interested in finding someone who would be interested in parallel play/work with a free use agreement. I live alone and have a lot of things I'm working on, and I've learned my limits/when I need to take breaks, but I don't like breaking when there's more to do. I've noticed a tendency to be able to relax more into breaks when I'm involving another person-- either by calling a friend or chatting with people online-- and I think that having someone to channel my attention to when I need to unwind would be stellar. Having extended sessions without sacrificing my productivity would be ideal.

I have these daydreams of setting you up in my living room with a latte/tea, homemade cookies, a fuzzy blanket, and a videogame or TV show while I work in my bedroom till I can break. I don't get off on ignoring people, but for whatever reason, that one specific scenario is wildy enticing for me. Can't put a finger on exactly why, but there's gotta be some level of my feeling security in knowing someone is under my roof and taken care of.

I like putting in effort. A part of the reason I gravitate towards being a dom is because high effort on my end pays off in the bedroom, and I like the variety of paths that are available to me when I'm in a kind of 'dom space,' if you will. This effort has definitely been fun and rewarding in the bedroom, don't get me wrong, but I want to feel more love-chemical in addition to lust-chemical, and the added rewards of effort in both realms.

Now, I get that this is reddit. And probably not exactly the place for LTR-searching. But hey, if you want something casual and would want to role-play a more loving-couple-scenario, I'm good with that too. I just want the specific experience of living with someone for long enough that the sex-into-pillow-talk cycle isn't the only thing that we ever do. And I genuinely can't get that one I-work-you-play scenario out of my fuckin head.

Anyway. I'll talk more about me and what I'm into now. I'm 5'9", althetic/lean build at ~140, white, brown hair and brown eyes, hairy (kept clean and trim though), and I get called cute/kind all the goddamn time. I love playing games, cooking, reading, making drinks (I'm a bartender), writing, listening to and making music, going out, dancing, and being active. I have a pretty awesome home setup for all of my hobbies, and I like making my space one where I'd be entertained for months if covid pt. 2 ever happened. Not cause I expect it or cause I'd ever wish for it, but I figure that's a decent way to describe how I've set up my apartment lmao.

Kink-wise, I'm into most everything. Bondage, free use, and overstimulating are three of the bigger ones, but I'm also into praising, some sadism, making games and tasks, dominaton, rough sex, breathplay, choking, spanking, biting, giving hickies, marking in general (non-perminant), cnc, some public play, pet play, role play, and daddying-- to a degree. Earning the submission of a sub is one of the best parts of bdsm, and as such, I do lean into pleasure domming. Anyone who is into being dominated into feeling maximum pleasure/braindead/lustfulness is a good match for me.

I'm not into bodily waste play, blood play, and anything hyper-extreme like permanent marks or heavy impact play. And even though I like how it feels to be in the caretaker role, I'm not into age regression. I don't have a foot fetish, and I'm not a furry. And then, I don't have any experience in degradation or humiliation, but have been interested in testing it out recently. Not sure if I'd be into it though.

I really like smaller, cuter gals. I'm probably going to cross-post this into the pets and owners subreddit cause the cuteness, enthusiasm, and sexual freedom I've seen in that community is hugely appealing to me. Again, I'm not a furry, but I do love the pet play dynamic where people embrace their ability to act sexual in a non-normative and fulfilling way. Personalized sexuality is appealing to me. And the ability to be open and enthusiastic is incredibly endearing to me. All that said, I do also like shy gals and introverts, and anyone who's just curious about kink. I guess I'm not exactly picky.

I do have dealbreakers though. I absolutely don't want anyone underage, anyone in a committed relationship, or anyone who doesn't try to be a good person. I'd prefer someone clever and/or nerdy, and I'd prefer someone who enjoys similar interests. You must be a good communicator for me to want to do anything with you, and you must be able to visit at some point-- I'm not looking for an online-only thing.

But if you ever have those days where you're on your phone relaxing and not really doing much of anything, and you've ever wanted to do the exact same amount of nothing, just with someone else nearby...do reach out.