Hi! this is probably going to be quite a long post so apologies for that in advance.

I'm a 23 year old woman from the Netherlands and I am looking for a soft dom. I have posted on here before but I think I know a bit more about what I actually want now so I wanted to try again. In the past I've gotten a lot of replies to these posts, I'm kinda trying to prevent that from happening this time so I'm gonna be quite specific about my wants. Please read them carefully and only message me if you think we'd be a good match!! also side note I don't always know the correct terms for things but I'll try my best to explain myself.

The absolute most important thing in a dom/sub to me is respect. For me that means inside and outside of sex. I don't want to be be "used" like some sort of object. I see a lot of people on here use that term but being submissive for me isn't about being used or degraded or whatever. It's about not having to make decisions and being taken care of. I want someone who is sweet and caring but who can also take control and be strict when they have to be. But the most important thing is that I feel loved and cared for at all times.

Another thing that is really important to me is trust. I have some issues regarding that so it will probably take some time for me to trust you enough to start doing anything sexual. If you're not willing to invest time into building trust don't bother with sending me a message.

I love praise but I also love it when you're a bit "condescending", like being spoken down too or when you say stuff like "awwwh baby does that hurt??" in a sweet tone even though you're the one doing it to me. I'm also really into orgasm control and overstimulation even though I'll probably complain a lot while you're doing it. I've always been really curious about being with a pleasure dom.... but of course that's a necessity. Another really really really big kink of mine is being tied up, especially with rope. I'm open to more stuff but these are just my main ones.

I'm not looking for anything 24/7. You'll probably just piss me off if you try to control stuff in my daily life so please don't. I also want this to be a real life thing. Online relationships just don't satisfy me. So I'm looking for someone that lives near me, I live in the northern part (friesland) of the Netherlands. I'm willing to travel a bit but I also would like this to be long term so if you're from the south (like limburg or brabant) it's probably not gonna work.

I'd also like to point out that I don't have a daddy or a mommy kink. I've noticed that a lot of times people assume I do because I want a soft dom but I don't. I honestly don't see the appeal in any titles or roleplay like that. I'd prefer to just be "us" but just with a different kind of dynamic than we'd have in our normal life.

The last thing I want to say is that I'm not into bit age gaps at all. I would like someone that is close in age with me and that is kind of in the same stage of life if that makes sense.

I think that's all! thank you for reading if you've made it this far. I hope everything made sense to you, if not I'd be happy to answer your questions. Again please consider carefully if we'd be a good fit before you message me, I really don't want to get flooded with people that want the complete opposite as me again. Thank you!!