Hey there,

I’ve been meaning to post something like this for a while but always hesitated—because, let’s be honest, finding the right dynamic isn’t as simple as swiping right.

But I believe that great connections happen in the most unexpected places, and maybe this is one of them.

If you're someone who values honesty, communication, and a good mix of intensity and playfulness, keep reading.

Who I Am (Kink Edition)

• Dominant-leaning, rope-focused sadist (but not the "shouty, micromanaging" type)
• Rigger, sadist, and dominant by nature—I love restraint, control, and pushing limits in a way that excites both of us
• Open to both monogamy and non-monogamy—for me, it’s about the connection first and what works best for both of us. Some relationships feel right when they’re fully committed to just two people, while others thrive on more fluidity. I don’t believe in forcing a structure that doesn’t fit—I believe in finding what feels natural together.
• Primal tendencies—I enjoy the chase, the tension, and the struggle (when consensually given)
• Brat Tamer & Degrader—but only if it’s earned; I’m not here to “tame” just anyone
• Not an owner or master at heart—while some power exchange is enjoyable, I don’t thrive in full-time D/s 24/7 structures
• Not just a "kinkster" but a deeply sensual person—I love the psychological aspects of play as much as the physical ones
• Greysexual—when it's not kinky, my sex drive is low. I need intensity, tension, and a strong mental connection for desire to kick in

Who I Am (Outside of Kink)

• 180 cm (5’11”), 84 kg (~185 lbs)—somewhere between "dad bod" and "functional strength"
• Game designer—yes, I play games for a living, and no, that doesn’t mean I just sit at my desk all day (…okay, maybe sometimes)
• Music nerd—I’ve organized music festivals before, and my playlist has 30k songs, from black metal & punk to hip-hop & folk
• Tattooed & pierced—30 tattoos, some piercings
• Therapy regular (5 years)—because growth is important, and so is unpacking all the weird layers of who we are
• Drinker & smoker—casual with both, and I do plan to quit smoking, just not right now
• LDR is fine to start—I’ve lived in 4 countries in 5 years, and I’m open to relocating if there’s a strong connection

Who I’m Looking For

• Submissive-leaning with a backbone—I don’t enjoy passive partners; I like someone who pushes back just enough to make things interesting
• Curious, kinky, and open-minded—experience is a bonus but not a requirement. A willingness to explore matters more than how much you’ve done
• Emotionally intelligent & communicative—if something’s off, we talk about it, not let it fester
• You understand that dominance isn’t just about “control”—it’s about building something together, about trust, safety, and pushing boundaries in a way that excites both of us
• You’re not looking for a “Dom who takes over your life”—I want a partner, not a project
• You have a life, passions, and interests of your own—I want someone who can teach me things too
• You respect that I’m greysexual—I need psychological intensity, chemistry, and play for attraction to click
• You're open to exploring what kind of relationship works best for us—whether that’s deep, committed monogamy or something more open, I believe the best relationships are built on trust, respect, and a structure that fits both people naturally.

What I Want in a Dynamic

• Power dynamics with depth—I love the tension between giving and taking control, and I want a partner who enjoys the mental game as much as the physical one
• Impact, rope, and primal play—these are my go-tos, but I love exploring new things with the right person
• A mix of intensity and casualness—I don’t do "serious dom all the time" energy; I like laughter, teasing, and chemistry alongside the edge
• Kink isn’t everything—I want a connection first; the best dynamics come from knowing and trusting each other deeply
• We talk, a lot—because communication is the only way to keep things exciting, safe, and real

If any of this resonates with you, start your message with your favorite mythology figure—because why not make this fun from the get-go?

Also, I prefer moving to voice chat quickly—texting forever isn’t my thing.

Looking forward to meeting someone who wants to explore, push limits, and build something real. 😊