Hey everyone! I'm 25M, live in southern Oregon right by the Pacific, and am looking for a kinky partner. I'm no stranger to the space and have had a few kinky relationships, but am currently looking for another long-term match. I've had a few compelling connections and even a (long-distance) meetup specifically from r/bdsmpersonals recently, so was interested in putting myself out here again. The scene is pretty sparse where I live; it's beautiful out here on the coast in one of the most Pacific Northwest vibe places there is, but there aren't really many FetLife users, events, etc, and the rest of the scene here is multiple hours away. So, here I am. Please be willing to make something long-distance happen if you're not from around this area.

Who am I?

Like I said, I'm 25M, straight, with a stable, rapidly rising career in tech and a house I own. I just got my dream job so I'm thriving. I can travel to you or travel you to me basically anywhere - I'm very mobile in general and a spontaneous flight is no issue. I'll share pics with someone I connect with but I'm 5'10", skinny/fit, with a cute face (I like to think, and so I'm told). I'm decently attractive by modern standards . I live by the ocean and enjoy a wide range of hobbies like skiing, reading, and ham radios. I love getting outdoors, working in my garden, tinkering with technology like Arduinos (oh, the kinky possibilities) and writing/photography as a creative pursuit. I have a short story I published on Amazon, and had a photo in a gallery for a while. I fly all over the country on the regular for my work, so things keep me busy. I love road trips and once spent 55 days straight living in an RV going to a bunch of national parks, with one of my goals being to visit all of them.

I unironically love the music of Chappell Roan, Mitski, Lana, Chari, and similar. I listen to music pretty much all the time so I have all kinds of stuff on, but take those being current favorites as either red flags or green flags as you will. I also like a lot of older rock and 90s alt rock. My favorite philosopher is Ayn Rand and I don't really care much for other philosophers. I will almost assuredly try to show you 12 Monkeys, Dark City, and Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind. For books I love Cormac McCarthy, Stephen King, Tolkein, Heinlein, and nonfiction esp about polar expeditions or similar adventures.

I've been told I have "golden retriever vibes", that I am a "Lana boy", and that I'm "girl-coded" and a "lesbian boyfriend".

In general I am kind of a romantic, am really looking for a connection, and ultimately I'd really prefer something that's leading toward a monogamous relationship. I protect my energy and prefer to put my effort towards something kinky, long-term, and emotionally fulfilling than sharing myself with random strangers. But I'm not opposed to starting with a more kink-focused dynamic.

Generally I have an incredibly high sex drive, love to be adventurous during sex, and I also really appreciate how fun more vanilla things can be (kink isn't something I need all the time, but it is something I need in anything long term), and just in general want a relationship with someone who also finds physical intimacy to be a main shared interest of the relationship, as opposed to kind of a nice bonus. I like to hold hands or have you on my arm in public, I like to cuddle and catch a Studio Ghibli, I like little scalp massages, I like casual touches throughout the day. I like someone who wants to flirtatiously message about times we've shared, I like someone who sends me photos of what they're up to.

What am I looking for?

I've known I'm into kink since essentially time immemorial and have gradually found I'm honestly into all kinds of kinky things. It took me a little while to really dive into the scene, but I've thoroughly enjoyed all my kinky experiences so far and I really want to get deeper into everything. I'd love to learn more at the moment about shibari and similarly elegant rope bondage.

My kinks I've found I enjoy include, but are in no way limited to:

• Bondage (especially tape, belts, and saran wrap, the more immobilized a sub, generally the better, I like taping subs to chairs, restraining them spreadeagle on beds, or going overboard on the number of belts lol)
• Gags (I am an enthusiast and love them in any form, but especially harness, ring, and panel gags)
• Orgasm control (I enjoy controlling vibrators and similar toys on a sub)
• Petplay (I love furry outfits, ears, tailplugs, leashes, bone gags, and similar on a sub)
• Domination (I like the "good girl, use your words" type dynamic, calling someone their preferred degrading names, and in general always prefer to be on top)
• Humiliation/Degradation (I like body writing, some watersports, forcefeeding, running mascara, and similar things)
• Sadism (I enjoy clamps, nipple suckers, I've tried some estim and enjoyed it)
• Medfet (I have a few random toys like a blood pressure cuff, speculums, etc for this, and enjoy roleplay around being ex. a mad scientist experimenting on a test subject)

Things I haven't tried as much but are more my fantasies/things I'd like to try someone to experiment with:

• Hucows (I have a milker I'm extremely eager to try out)
• Sensory deprivation/extreme machine bondage/"girl in a box" (haven't got to do this as much but I have a lot of kinky "human doll" ideas around controlling the entirety of an immobilized sub's senses at once through VR, catheters, an enema, heaters, etc while she's locked in some kind of box)
• Useful human furniture (following up on the above, I enjoy finding/seeing interesting, unique, degrading, and strange ways to utilize a sub as furniture - locked in the box as a living room table, a human rocking horse, etc)

I have a large collection of gear I'm currently debating turning my guest bedroom into a dungeon with. I LOVE anything House of Gord did and would love to put my DIY skills to use with the right sub on some similar ideas I have, with a modern tech flair.

Overall I'll really try anything, though I consider vomit/scat to be hard limits, and I'm not really interested in dd/lg dynamics. Like I said I'm pretty sexually adventurous, I just prefer to be a dom.

Honestly I'm just really into kink in general. My dick is 6.7 inches without anything too weird about it.

Like I said, I've had a few great conversations and even a meetup from here recently, so just in general figured I'd reach out again and see if anyone was interested. Kinky people are rare and if my post speaks to you, let's see what's up - send me a message!