Who am I?

Hey, I'm a dominant of about fifteen years' experience, but I'm looking for a serious relationship. I've yet to find that special someone who's truly on the same wavelength as me, who's weird and nerdy in just the right way that we can have something magical together. To that end, have some lists!

What do I bring to the table?

• Smart: One of my defining characteristics is that I've got a pretty good head on my shoulders. I'm well-read, have diverse interests, and love learning new things.

• Funny, maybe: Comedy is subjective, obviously, but I'd say I've got a pretty good sense of humor. I think sometimes it surprises people who read the somewhat formal tone I use in my posts here, only to find me sharing goofy memes and Simpsons clips once we get to know each other.

• Sane: I got lucky in my upbringing, so I'm not weighed down by the insecurities and hang-ups that are so often complained about regarding men. I'm self-aware, emotionally open and available, and keep a level head in a crisis. I also enjoy bookkeeping, so I'm handy with a budget, itinerary, etc.

• Romantic: I'm a sucker for a sappy love story, I love close, intimate conversations, and I'm a big cuddler. I'm Gomez Addams in search of my Morticia. I'd also like to characterize myself as kind, thoughtful, considerate, a good listener, etc., but those are all things that are better demonstrated than professed.

• Sexy: My years of experience with BDSM aren't for show, and I don't think it's bragging to say that I'm pretty good at domination. My personal style is a bit mischievous and teasing, I enjoy making my partners feel a little flustered and frustrated in good ways. I seek to get into your head, and find ways to make you squirm, before I even lay a finger on you. Hell, I've learned ways to consistently make women orgasm without touching them once. Having control over my partner's pleasure is a major turn-on for me, and my preferred means of expressing that is by giving them such an overwhelming amount of said pleasure that they break (in a fun way). I tend to prefer praise and pleasure over degradation or sadism, but I can be as rough as one needs on request. I also enjoy free use, and have a pretty big breeding kink. This all being said, BDSM is a conversation, so we'd work out limits, boundaries, and other specifics as we get acquainted. Also, I wish this could go without saying, but some men are apparently deficient about these things, so, yes, obviously you can expect extensive aftercare (it's mandatory for BDSM, but I guess some guys just suck), and of course I go down on my partners with great enthusiasm (honestly, any "dom" whose power is so fragile that eating a woman out threatens it, never had that power in the first place).

What might you not enjoy?

(NOTE: While some of these listed items are unequivocally weaknesses of mine, others are more just subjective things that might not be your cup of tea, but which I'm quite comfortable with)

• Self-Righteous: I have a strong sense of justice, and I can get a bit worked up about events in the world. I know some people like to fully disconnect from that stuff for mental health reasons, and that's totally valid, but I imagine my own tendency to stay informed, even when it hurts, may be taxing in those cases.

• City Boy: I do not like being out in nature. I will not go camping, or hiking. If we go skiing, I'm staying in the chalet with some tea and a book of crossword puzzles. I prefer swimming pools and museums over beaches and forests.

• Unsocial: While I'm pretty gregarious when I'm around people I know, or in a social situation where I feel comfortable (I love a small, intimate get-together, especially if board games or tabletop RPGs are involved), I'm generally withdrawn around strangers. I'm the type who, if forced to go to a party where I don't know anyone, will hang out in the corner, playing with the host's cat. I'm also very selective about my social circle, with only a very small number of people I consider close. So if you're someone who has lots of acquaintances or loves going out to big parties or clubs, I may not be very satisfying company.

• Referential: I make a lot of references to pop culture and media, and if you're someone who hasn't seen a lot of things, that may get old quickly.

• Poor: Like a number of people of my generation, I wound up stuck in the gig economy after college. I stay afloat, but I'm by no means a wealthy man. On the flip side, I don't mind if a woman makes more money than me.

What am I looking for?

• Grown-up: Naturally, you need to be close to my age (30 strongly preferred), and I'd also like to be clear that I'm not interested in "littles" or any sort of age regression play. I also need a partner who is somewhat mature. That's not to say we can't also be childish dorks together sometimes, but if something important is happening, I need to know we're both on the ball.

• No nicotine: No smoking, no vaping, this is far and away my most firm dealbreaker.

• Wants kids: I would like to have children within the next couple years, hopefully you do, too.

• Good person: Please be fairly left-leaning. Trans rights, ACAB, eat the rich, etc.

• Submissive: I mean, this is a little obvious, but, to get into specifics, because I tend to focus so strongly on my partner's pleasure in the moment, I need a sub who is equally focused on my pleasure. Don't be afraid to be insistent about it, I like a sub who's eager to please.

• Weird and Nerdy: I saved this for last because it's easily the most important, because it's the only criteria that's never been truly satisfied for me, and it's the main reason I'm still looking for my ideal partner. Like, sure, I'm into movies, video games, and so on, and so is everyone else my age, but the movies and games I'm into aren't always mainstream. I love old movies, I'm a huge TCM junkie. I'm into obscure JRPGs and visual novels about time loops and metaphysics. I'm haunted by the series finale of M*A*S*H (and if you've seen it, you'll know exactly which scene and why). I love Weird Al and David Bowie. You don't need those exact experiences, obviously, but I'm not sure how else to communicate the sort of eclectic, esoteric nature of my interests. Be into weird stuff, so we can be weird together.

Outro

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