Hi! I am 37 year old dom who is looking to own a willing submissive. I am 5'10", broad shoulders, big hands, thick arms (did trades before turning to engineering), blue eyes, brown hair, beard (if you're thinking of a chubby lumberjack with a big smile, you're on the right track). In the last 2 years I've lost 75lbs, quit drinking/smoking. I am 190lbs and will lose 20-40 lbs more this year (not sure what my goal weight is yet), but I am already very happy with what I see in the mirror. I am a nerdy, used to be a bit awkward guy, but working in trades really brought me out of my shell. Though, I still wouldn't call myself a chatter-box.

I love to learn new things, read, watch movies/shows/anime, play video games/board games with friends. I go hiking every weekend (like an hour or two hike in a state park nearby), I love to snowboard, snorkel and travel. I am very liberal in my views, fully support LGBTQ community and women's rights, if you voted for Trump please find the closest door and let it hit you on the way out.

I am looking for someone to spend a lot of time with, I like to talk on the phone/voice chat 4-7 days a week, usually for hours. I want to talk about everything and joke about dumb things, I can be very silly with a lot of dad humor (you will roll your eyes A LOT): how did our day go, what did we do, what interesting things we've learned or funny things we've seen, who is being an ass at work and why, tell me about the latest book you've read (yes, the smut one too, I don't judge).

I also want to watch shows, movies, anime, play video games together, tease each other when we fail and celebrate our successes. I love to discuss, speculate and make jokes between episodes.

I am looking for someone who wants to give up a fair bit of control. I want to setup daily tasks to help you achieve whatever goals you wish to set for yourself, have you been struggling with getting good sleep? Lets work together to fix that, so you can be well rested and alert when hanging out with Daddy! There will also be tasks that are just for fun or simply naughty (hopefully both).

My ideal partner is someone who is smart, funny, bratty and naughty. Someone who will make me craft an almost 'law firm' level rule-set so they can not wiggle out on technicalities. Someone who will challenge my authority and make me tame them back daily. I want someone who lives and breathes "malicious compliance", but also follows rules and submits 100% when they do submit. I would love for them to be local to Raleigh, but I will make long distance work for the right person.

I can be pretty rough with my play, I want to push you to your limits, see you hurt and degrade yourself for my pleasure. But consent is absolute. I will play around the edges of what you feel comfortable with, but I will never push past a clearly set boundary.

Kinks are not requirements (I've been happy in purely vanilla relationships, and been in an out of BDSM for almost 20 years), they are more like a menu, choose your own adventure type of thing:

• Humiliation, degradation and praise - sometimes at the same time, sometimes not.
• Dirty talk
• DDLG - agegaps, prefer middles if into ageplay
• CNC
• Watersports
• Orgasm denial/control and edging
• Cuckolding and Cuckqueaning
• Impact play
• Nipple/clit torture
• Throat fucking - cock warming / objectification
• Feet - (you will have a footcare routine and will send me daily pictures)
• Anal - both ways
• Rimjobs (giving and receiving)

I am kinda perverted, so the only hard limits are scat and permanent damage, but I am down to incorporate anything into the dirty talk.