I'm intentionally keeping this prompt generalized, but essentially it's at the root of most of my kinks and I'd like to find a long-term dynamic that fixates on this. I think verbosity is an insidious enemy in this subreddit and, while lots of people end up writing multiple pages about what they want, very few are going to want to read all of that. That said, please do read this post in its entirety because I'm not the usual kink explorer on here and what I want is very nuanced and particular.

I'm looking for a dom/sub dynamic (with me as sub, you as dom) where I'm actively being manipulated, brainwashed, and turned towards your ends over ideally a long period of time. This is real, it's a real thing I want, do not ask me if I really want this, and yes, I have experienced it before and it's probably why I'm so obsessed with it now.

As to the specifics, I'll largely leave it to you. I find these dynamics are best if they develop organically, free of expectations from our previous experiences. But in the interest of clarifying what separates a "good" candidate from a "bad" one, I'll lay down some guidelines.

Here are some quick bullet points:

You should be:

• Older. I like a "daddy" vibe in my kink chats; something gentle but lightly patronizing and willing to guide/lead the conversation. It doesn't have to be explicitly DDLG of course, but I'd say I enjoy at a minimum a shade of that. Men my age are not good at producing that vibe. Be older. Ideally significantly older.
• Intelligent and articulate. I cannot stand unintelligence in my partners. If you cannot come up with something interesting to say and somewhere interesting to lead the conversation, we won't go far. If you cannot string three words together without a typo/grammatical error/misspelling, we also won't go far.
• Interested and insightful. Ask me questions, learn about me (I'll be genuine if I like you), learn what I like and how my brain works, and pre-empt me. Eventually, use that against me to guide me in the directions you want.
• Ethically and consensually dubious. We are going into a moral gray area here. I embrace that and accept that what I want is something real and something potentially ethically dubious. Be willing to do the same.
• Respectful. I do NOT respond well to outright harassment, degradation, or misogyny. If you want to involve those things, do it in a more subtle, nuanced way over a longer period of time once my defenses are down somewhat.
• Willing to embrace subtlety and nuance. Have an understanding of how to manipulate and guide someone. If you don't know how to do this, I cannot teach you and we won't go anywhere.

You should NOT be:

• Younger than me.
• Stupid and vacuous.
• Fixated on appearances. I don't care what you look like (at least not at this stage), I don't want your pics, and I will not tell you what I look like or send you pics until we get to know each other better. I'm more focused on the mental aspect of this and if you're going to be demanding pics five minutes in, it won't work.
• Let me reiterate and reinforce that last point: no pictures, no video, no voice, no social media accounts outside of Reddit until I either bring them up or send them to you myself. What I'm asking for here is dangerous (for me) and toxic and these are the rules I use to protect myself. Asking for any of these things will instantly kill the vibe and will probably kill the conversation. This is the hardest of hard limits. If you're one of those men who will insist on pictures/voice for "verification", move along. You will not be the exception, even if we get along well.
• Using emojis and emoticons. This drives me absolutely nuts in kink conversations. I'm not Snapchatting with my friends here; emojis and emoticons of any kind will instantly kill my mood more than you can possibly know. Don't use them. Consider them a hard limit.
• Demanding and disinterested about my wants/needs.
• Some kind of white knight or otherwise eye-rolling "protector". Do not feel the need to constantly remind me about consent and how important consent is to you: treat me like a big girl who understands those things and knows how to protect herself. Assume blanket consent is given unless I express otherwise explicitly. This is necessary for the vibe I want/need.
• Forgetting to include the word "orange" in your first message; I'd like you to include it so I know you read this far.
• Disrespectful and misogynistic. Calling me a whore or cunt and demanding that I follow your commands outright will straight up get you reported and blocked.
• Overly brazen and boring.
• Sending me copy/pasted text walls as your first message. You don't have to write a lot, but be genuine and draw my interest.

I'll cut it off there and leave the rest to you. Message me if you're interested. Reddit chat is faster, but if you prefer DMs go for it.