i took my ADHD med and i absolutely word vomited over this post im so sorry!

about me

• live in: England
• age: 21 - 22 in a month !
• physical attributes: 6 foot, 76kg, round glasses with brown eyes, black hair, athletic slim body - i currently hybrid train, alternating days between weight lifting sessions and marathon prep!
• personality: ADHD - very much so. i don’t like to make it part of my personality because i hate it but it must not be ignored. i’m ambitious in career and life and studying to be a doctor (3rd year), eccentric, funny, silver-tongued and quick witted (british sarcasm hehe), highly emotionally intelligent, confident. i know myself well but i know there’s more to learn. i like to think i know other people well too. i’m comfortable managing a healthy dynamic. i’m family oriented and lucky enough to have a large social circle with a lot of friends and a handful of close ones. i’m comfortable being silly, loving, firm, and whatever you need me to be.
• hobbies/interests: i fucking love books and reading and sincerely believe the library is the best place on earth. i’m a huge film guy but i promise im not pretentious about it - my favourite film is Fantastic Mr Fox! i’m a big fan of live gigs and concerts and music in general with a wide taste - indie music is a particular fav. i enjoy baking, camping and the outdoors, and i fucking love a sweet treat
• love language: you know i think i have a few. i have noticed i really enjoy acts of service. i love doing things for you, you know? putting in effort and time and energy to make something or do something. a way to show you that i do care about you and you’re worth my time and effort. i also love physical tough of course!
• kinks: there are many, ranging from edging to body writing for example but i’m not too fussed about these. i want a power dynamic with you and control. i want to understand you and take advantage of you in a way that pleases both of us, all so i can exploit you for my own sexual delight. please expect to find yourself dripping. often.
• hard limits: toilet stuff, blood

you are: a woman with some sort of ambition. you’re adventurous and enjoy trying new things (in and out of the bedroom). you understand the need and importance of good communication. you’re also fit and healthy. you have some kind of passion or hobby. you love to chat late into the night. you’re not ashamed of your submissive side but you’re not easily won over - rather you’ll wait for the right partner to kneel for. and when you finally do, it will something deeper than sex.

my offer to you: allow me to sculpt you, the wayward aimless girl, into an obedient whore and a docile submissive - one who i treat as my confidant, my best friend, my situationship, my lover, and my partner in crime. sometimes this will be explicitly sexual, but not always. what may seem esoteric and irrelevant can be incredibly sexy when it is related to BDSM. maybe it’s when you are permitted to play with yourself, or having a plug put in before you are allowed to leave the house in a dress. but it might also just be a small item of etiquette to do with how you speak or conduct yourself. it might be your fitness or hygiene. whatever it is, i’m looking for control and for deep, psychological intimacy.

i prefer the caring but demanding role of a Daddy. i enjoy free use, tasteful humiliation, eye contact (lots of eye contact) acts of depravity as well as warm embrace. i love things like wardrobe control and find myself very attractive to femininity (physically, mostly), but not to the point i would let that be a box to restrict either of our personalities.

lucky for you! i’m offering a one-on-one, private education in the ways of a good submissive. this is something in which i have both incredible talent and learned experience. i adore stripping away all the bollocks to find out your deepest and most depraved fantasies and forcing you to live them. for me - this is incredibly sexy.

now, saying all this, allow me to get into some detail :)

romance

you know that rising feeling when you call someone off reddit for the first time and you can’t stop smiling? and you know the person on the other side is smiling too from the way they’re speaking? yeah i want that. i’m looking for somebody to share their mundane day-to-day with me. to tell me about how shit work was and how much they’re looking forward to their weekend. and with trust and foundation, i slowly want to hear about what makes you tick? what insecurities and deep-seated fears you possess. i want to shower you with warm compliments in an effort to help rid those insecurities every morning and i want to be cringey about it.

im firm but fair and i want to nurture you like you’ve never been nurtured before. to take the lead in this relationship so you never have to make any trivial decisions for yourself. i want to put the work into making you feel cherished and respected by me. i can be your listening ear, your considerate companion, and the man who gives you an endless number of headpats, foreheads kisses, and maybe even cringey love letters.

i want to treat you as an equal. there is far too much misogyny on this app. i dont care what your profession is. if you work in a school or in a shop or in a hospital or in an office. i don’t care if you’re strong-willed and opinionated at work, so long as you come home and have your mouth judged - not on the arguments it can craft, but on how well it can make my throbbing cock feel. you may demand the respect of your peers in your daily life and yet harbour a secret desire to be called despicable names and have degrading things said to you. to be reduced to the lowest and filthiest of sluts.

if you struggle with the dichotomy of being a functioning, productive member of a free and equal society yet yearn to fulfill what you know is your life's purpose - to be a toy for the satisfaction and pleasure of your partner. a toy whose success is measured only by the yardstick of my satisfaction.

i know that you need someone else to take control, to use you and keep you in your place. to let you drift into subspace as you suck my cock, or writhe in pleasure as i fuck you over and over before leaving you in a melted pile until i’m ready to go again.

i know that you’re an insatiable slut who uses success to cover a deep, desperate desire to serve, to be a toy, a pet, an object. livestock to be degraded and a dumb bitch to be cared for.

essentially - i know best.

emotional manipulation

everyone knows manipulation is much more fun in pairs. there’s no question about it - i will shower you with my love and affection. but, i want to make sure you’re mine. i value an intricate psychological connection as well as the physical one. i want you to trust me with your deep, buried kinks and fantasies and i want to be the one who pushes you gently to explore them with you. even if it’s ever so slightly sadistic. your experience with this will be wholly tailored to you, your kinks, and your limits. i want to focus on exploring you. to jump inside and caress every fun secret little button and play with all those turning cogs. you will be safe. you will be cared for. but you will be wrapped around my finger.

best friends

above all, i want us to be best friends. i want an easy relationship. yes there will be pet names and name calling but i want you to be comfortable with me and i, you. i want to flirt with you innocently and tease you lovingly. to hear about your day. to tell you about what’s on my mind so you can help.

i have three years experience. that means full blown D/s dynamics with complex rules and etiquettes, play partners, mutual-obsession, boredom, romance, pleasures discovered and diminishing. kink is not the main thing in my life. that would be my family & friends, and then outdoors, then passion and art, spiritually, and then maybe kink. rather, it is an intoxication i’d prefer not to live without. i’ve had the pleasure of existing inside of a heathy D/s dynamic, and therefore i know what everyone else is missing out on. but i’m looking for something real, with longevity and most of all GROWTH, so i am willing to make sacrifices for the right person. i am not going to compromise on my values because i like mixing power with sex, and neither should you!!