Hi! I’m 25, single mom, liberal, bisexual (not in practice unfortunately), stubborn and opinionated, just drifting through life looking to explore a d/s dynamic that would fit into my day-to-day life. I have always been pretty deviant in the bedroom but I am looking for someone to keep up with me and even push me to my limits. I am ready to explore this side of myself and want someone who can guide and walk through it with me. In my free time I am usually doing laundry, picking up toys, journaling, reading, catching up on shows, heading to the theater to watch a movie, and spending time with my mom. I am not very outdoorsy and do not do much outside the house but I am open to that sort of stuff if it's what you are into. I am very much an introvert and very family oriented. My mom, my kid and I are a package deal. Appearance wise, I am 5’, 160 lbs, wear glasses, long dark brown hair, short bangs, curvier body type, and generally stick to darker clothes. I am Mexican American with Mexican and Chinese on my paternal side. Oh and I have a decent amount of tattoos and plan to eventually be covered in them.

Kinks I’m into include cnc, choking, slapping, spanking, biting, leaving marks, overstimulation, praise, degradation, spitting.

Curious about shibari, d/s dynamics, bdsm, sex in front of other people, dvp.

No scat, nothing illegal, underage, vomit.

There are a few things outside of the bedroom that are absolute deal breakers:

Age - I would like you to be older than me or at least my age. No older than 36 y.o.

Political affiliation - I lean more liberal and absolutely do not have time or patience to be with someone who agrees on any level with the current state of the U.S. No conservatives.

Religion - This is a little complicated. I was raised Catholic but I am by no means a religious person and do not identify as Catholic. I would prefer someone who does not necessarily consider themselves religious and does not use religious beliefs to justify other aspects of life or politics. I don't want to go to church or pray at dinner or center our lives around a religion.

Family plans - I would like to have a few more kids, this would be discussed between us if we get serious but if you know you don't want kids or are unsure please stay away.

Feminism - I have lots of opinions and speak openly about them even when I know that who I’m speaking to would not agree. You absolutely have to consider yourself someone who respects women (and all people), stands up for minorities the best you can, checks others who may be problematic, and leads with love & respect.

Pro-choice - This should speak for itself.

There are many other topics to discuss on a more personal level. I am not looking for this d/s dynamic to be the sole purpose of us being together. This is not sustainable with my lifestyle. This would be intertwined with everything that makes us human, the beautiful and the ugly. I want someone who can completely turn my brain off during our most intimate moments while also partaking in stimulating conversations about all the horrors in the world over dinner.

Although I do not consider myself shallow or very stuck on appearances I do have a type (none of the physical attributes are deal-breakers). I love a man with dark hair and features with an average or “sleeper” build. I go nuts for tattoos and someone who looks like they could kick your ass but is a total sweetheart. I love a nerdy woke big-brain type. Intelligence without the patronizing tone is mouth watering. I love learning about new things via the person I’m with. I do have a bit of a size kink so if you’re taller and heavier than me that's a huge plus. I love a man who can take charge, make decisions, provide, is handy around the house and shares similar beliefs in raising kids and family dynamics.

I’m not sure what else to include in this but I am happy to start a conversation and see if there's any chemistry. If all this interests you and you made it to the end of this intro please send me a message including a brief introduction of yourself with your age, occupation, residence, what fills your cup, something you’re passionate about and anything else you’d like to share. Keep in mind the goal is for this to eventually move to irl and I cannot relocate at this time. Looking forward to meeting my forever person. xoxo