As the title might suggest, I’m looking for something serious and long term. I'm best described as a calm individual. It usually takes me a while to connect with somebody, but once I do I become quite affectionate. I have a big, but also a sadistic heart.

Some info about me, I am 1.81m. I have blond hair and a beard. I work full time as a software engineer and enjoy watching series/movies or playing video games in my free time. The kind of games I play are: Spider-Man, Factorio, Witcher, Assassin's Creed. I’m currently playing Jedi Survivor. I also have bouts where I enjoy reading. I have read a few of the Poirot books, LotR, and the first of the Stormlight Archives just to name a few (and I still got quite the list I want to read). I used to go to the gym about 4 times a week and sadly haven’t been able to go for a bit now, but I plan to go back in a month or two when I will have more energy for it.

I enjoy some woodworking and as a stereotypical sadist I did make a paddle. Apparently, it does pack quite a punch, so unless you’re really masochistic it might just be for decoration. When I’ve got more space I would love to make some bigger/more complex stuff (like some bondage furniture), but for now it’s quite limited.

As a Dominant I thoroughly enjoy watching you dig a hole for yourself (I might even offer you a shovel), before I put you in your place. I’m also an excellent negotiator. My favourite game is probably making you beg for a worse deal than you started with.

As a sadist I enjoy paddles, floggers, or simply using my hand to give you a good spanking. Lately I’ve noticed that a bit of teasing can also put a big smile on my face, giving a brat a taste of their own medicine is something that just perks me up every time. 

That’s not to say I am always a strict sadist, I do also have a soft and caring side. I like something simple as you kneeling next to me, showing my love by lifting up your head and giving you a kiss. Small acts of service or gestures to weave our D/s dynamic through our relationship. I like helping my sub with discipline or offering advice. I love cuddling on the couch and watching a movie together. Somebody once told me “I can’t believe somebody so sweet can be so sadistic”.

Some other kinks I enjoy are: Edging/forced orgasms, paddles, nipple clamps, pinning you down, service, gags, lightly choking, bondage. There is also nothing better than driving my submissive completely insane by either denying her orgasms, or seeing how many she can have in one evening. There is a whole lot more that I’m not mentioning here but I feel like a whole list of kinks isn’t fun to read through (plus it’s always enjoyable to chat about each other's kinks too)

Of course I also do have some limits, like the more standard ones as knife play/scat/gore. I am also not into any age regression or being called Daddy. That’s just not for me. Furthermore I am monogamous and do not want to do any sharing/swinging or poly.

I won’t tell you to “kneel for me” in the first message. I understand that you need to feel comfortable before giving your submission. I might send you some flirty banter though. It’s important for me to get to know both your vanilla and submissive side. I am looking for somebody to form a relationship with and that includes both the vanilla and kinky.

I am looking for somebody who enjoys all of the above, but is also looking for a genuine connection and not just a dynamic. Somebody who’d feel safe and secure in my arms. Somebody who doesn't limit BDSM to the bedroom. I see the D/s dynamic being a part of everyday life. I want somebody who doesn't just slip into submissiveness for a while but for whom it's part of her. I’m looking for somebody who is affectionate and masochistic; who enjoys lying in my arms as much as lying over my knee.

Preferably you would be my age or younger and also shorter than me. There’s something just wonderful about wrapping my arms around my girl and completely enveloping her in my hug. Appearance wise I do not really have a strong preference, although I do try and maintain a healthy body/lifestyle and would like for you to have at least that same mentality. Finally I am atheist and I did date somebody who was religious before and we decided that it would not work long term because of that.

At the end of the day I’m looking for somebody to grow old with, to have our little weird relationship. To collar you and for you to belong to me and my heart to belong to you. Find that other half to go somewhere with or just chill at home and enjoy life with. To wake up next to and flick her nipples or spank her ass but also a sub to crawl under a blanket with, turn on the TV and just cuddle all day. A sub that one moment I might kiss passionately and the other place my hand around her throat.

Does that sound like something you would like? Feel free to send me a message/chat request and tell me a little bit about yourself.