Hi there! I'm Fen, a pleasure/Daddy type Dom looking for a long term romantic and kinky partner to love and protect, mutually grow with, tease relentlessly, and indulge in depraved fantasies with. An online connection is fine at first for me but I couldn't do it forever -- I'm currently living in Denver but not tied down here.

Who I am: Heteroflexible/queer cis white male, 29, 5'9", dad bod, tattoos, pierced ears, short beard, nice hands, a loud laugh and two cute gremlin cats.

I'm a nerd at heart and love tabletop, video and board games. Some other passions are cooking and baking (anything having to do with food, really), history, nonfiction, tea, supporting small & local businesses, etc. I also like design and fashion -- my aesthetic is antique-y alt grandpa who was definitely in a cult (but like, a fun one 🧙🏻‍♂️). I'm in my self actualization arc: Lifting, therapy, career advancement, working on my hobbies, etc. Fitness has become a huge part of my life this year and I'd prefer someone who I can maintain that forward momentum with.

What I'm looking for: In a dynamic, the power of intimate knowledge of my partner's mind and body, and being able to exert that over them with precision. Lots of slow burn dirty talk and praise, drawn out teasing, playing with sexual frustration and neediness. Devotion through acts of service, tasks/training and mutual fantasy fulfillment. I prefer enforcing my control with a gentle smile and sweet condescension, and love putting a brat in their place :)

I LOVE teasing and orgasm control, edging, combining humiliation with praise, sensation play (inc tickling, overstimulation), ddlg, petplay, restraints, predicaments, receiving worship, oral fixation, breeding (fantasy only), giving training and protocol, among many many others feel free to ask!). Not a fan of toilet play/filth, blood, intense pain or diapers. I need to spend time getting to know each other for a bit to establish a foundation of familiarity before jumping into any kinky play itself.

Who I'm attracted to: I gravitate toward those who are creative, enthusiastic and enjoy learning, who challenge me and make me want to improve myself. Those who share a need for mental connection -- laughter, banter and absurdity, funny observations, goofy/stupid references, affection, closeness, good communication, emotional openness and vulnerability. Those who are anti toxic masculinity, in touch with themselves, and have an awareness of & respect for the people and world around them. Those who include their fav book in their message so I know they actually read this. Passion and drive are infinitely attractive; I love to help people pursue their goals!

Physically, my type is shorter / smoler folks who take care of themselves physically and present feminine to androgynous (regardless of gender identity), with a massive soft spot for alt, artsy or bookish vibes.

Absolutely NOT interested in anyone who identifies with right wing politics.

If you want to send a message, please put some effort in -- info about you, your hobbies, what you're looking for etc, and be willing to (eventually) swap a SFW pic. Hope to hear from you :)