First off, I understand what I'm after isn't everyone's cup of tea. So if the idea of body modification is triggering for you, please don't read on.

Secondy, as far as I am concerned trans women are women so if you're a trans woman feel free to reach out to me. I just ask that you're down the road in your transition a bit and "out" as I've been tricked by a few folks who led me on and let me down. Just couldn't get the flair / post tag to behave.

I've long been attracted to one thing above everything else: Hyper Femininity. After spending a lot of my life leaning into my lefty-brain beliefs that I shouldn't project my needs on someone else, I've finally realized that I need to just embrace what I like. I want someone who embraces looking good. I want the person who doesn't like people -- including her partner -- seeing her without her makeup done. I want those long, acrylic nails scratching my back to wake me up in the morning. I want someone who is willing to embrace a tasteful bit of surgical alteration so when I walk into the bar with her on my arm I am the envy of every guy in the room.

Emphasis on the word "tasteful" here as well. I don't have any desire to have an air-headed blow-up doll to take care of. IQ reduction isn't something that interests me. I want someone who has a good head on their shoulders. Someone who can hold up a conversation. Someone I can show off to my family and friends. Someone who can make a doctor's appointment without me having to do it for them.

Most importantly, I want you to want this as well. I have no desire to force anything on you. I don't want someone who wishes they could be more feminine and just needs the nudge / support. I want someone who loves looking put together and might be described as high maintenance by others. I just want to take your love for all things femininity and help you dial it up to 11. I'm hoping you'll relish being the "new you" as much as I will when I get to show you off and praise you every day for what you've become.

What you'll get in return is a dedicated, loyal, highly-affectionate pleasure Dom. Seriously. Affection is my 1st, 2nd, and 3rd love language so I hope you enjoy physical touch. I'm stable, emotionally intelligent, empathetic, funny, and my friends would tell you just a hell of a nice guy. I'm a left-leaning, progressive-minded agnostic. So if you're highly religious or very conservative we may clash a bit on those things. I love animals, live music -- punk rock especially, craft beer, ice hockey, Guy Ritchie movies, and doing home renovation projects. I'm typically a bit more of a home body but I've done a lot of shadow work this year and have recently discovered I'm far more social than I thought previously. So much so that you can regularly catch me singing karaoke every week at my local bar. I haven't travelled much in the last 10 years for a variety of reasons but I'd very much like to change that.

I'm reasonably successful and I'm certainly not expecting you to foot the bill for your new lifestyle. However, I'm also not looking for any sort of sugaring dynamic or a submissive who expects to kick their feet up by the pool all day while draining my bank account. Ideally you're a professional yourself and you're looking for a DINK lifestyle where we can both enjoy our success. While I do have kinks around traditional gender roles, I am not hell-bent on having a stay-at-home partner. I work in tech so I'm a little nerdy in some ways but things like D&D, magic, and anime don't really appeal to me. I game a little bit but not as much as I used to. My nerdiness lies more in tech and computing rather than lore and fantasy.

So that leads me to a couple key things:

* I'm child free and intend to stay that way. So if you're looking to start a family I'm not your guy.

* I'm on a very real fitness journey. I've lost about 80lbs this year and while I have a ways to go I would like someone who is willing to be active with me. So if you're up for being my doubles partner in tennis or pickleball that would be awesome.

* I'm folicly challenged. Which means I'm going bald. I shave my head and have a nice red beard and I like this look better than any hair cut I've ever had. But if bald dudes aren't your thing I totally respect that.

* Not looking for just online. Definitely not looking to blindly send someone money after talking for months. I'd like to meet in person and make this a real thing.

* Ideally you live in the US as well. I can travel, and if you can that's great, but unless you have plans to move to the US on your own in the near future, something out of the country probably won't work.

As for the kink, I generally keep it private. However, I do enjoy letting kink weave it's way into a 24/7 lifestyle in ways that are only apparent to my sub and I. I'm never going to parade you around in a collar amongst unwilling bystanders. But I absolutely want to be able to whisper some filth in your ear at the rail of the bar or set some expectations around protocol.

I have a full kink list in my profile, but some quick hits are: Breath play, body modification (obviously), verbal degradation and humiliation, light bondage, light impact (spanking, slapping), size difference, breeding (in theory, not in practice as I do not want kids).

Soft limits:

DDlg. This is something I'm exploring as it speaks to my Daddy / caregiving tendencies. However I do not enjoy age play or diapers.

Bratting. I love bantering with my submissive. I'm very sarcastic and some playful back and forth is fantastic. However I have a limit to how much back talk I enjoy.

Limits: Scat, blood, knife play, vore, gore, anthro-anything, people who are rude to people in the service industry.

I am pretty squarely a pleasure Dom. I love making my submissive feel good. Though I do have a bit of a sadistic itch I enjoy scratching from time to time in the form of degradation and some light impact play. However, I can switch for the right person. Historically that's been a gentle Domme who can help me through emotional situations or when life is just hard. It's less sexual and more about mental/emotional support but I can explore that if it it's something that's important to you.

That being said, with the right person who is willing to embrace the hyper-feminine aesthetic, I'd enjoy exploring how you can wield your own control over me. These elements hit very hard for me. So naturally there's an element of you being able to wrap me around your finger because of all of the changes you've made. So I'd be very open to seeing where that might lead us.

Thanks for reading my novella. Hopefully this appeals to someone out there.