Hey! First thing I'm gonna hit is what I'm looking for, and then I'll get into all the rest. I have been in the community for a bit now, and I've met some cool people from searching around and reaching out, but I want to try making my own posts. I'm interested in seeing someone irl, and I'm interested in anything from a fling to fwb to a serious thing. My ideal situation would be starting casual, being open to something long-term, and communicating our perspectives when we need to address anything. But, again, if you just want a fwb with no seriousness to worry about, that's fine by me. I've only just become active in this realm, so I'm still learning what all my preferences are lol.

Anyway, I am a lean athletic 5'9" white guy with very high libido and a very active imagination. I am dominant, and lean most towards pleasure domming, but have had fun being a daddy dom, soft sadist, moderate sadistic, and a competitive "switch" who ends up winning lol. Im interested in other dynamics, but those are the ones I have experience with and know that I enjoy. In terms of actions, I like bondage, orgasm control, denial, overstim, praising, cnc, somno, free use, some sadism, non-perminant marking, sex games, and am interested in a couple others that I haven't really had the opportunity to try out. I'm very much on the side of preferring to give praise and encouragement than degradation though. I can be mean, but I honestly don't love it. What I do love is the feeling of earning my sub's submission-- makes the dynamic less arbitrary and more engaging for me. Oh, and I don't love control just for the sake of having control. I want my sub to be herself. I can enjoy making some rules and some tasks and setting precedents that make things more intriguing and fun and healthy for us, but like. I don't really think I'd buy into anything 24/7 where you are made to feel completely disrespected all the time. It can be fun to play around with, but we're both human beings, and I don't like dynamics that are toxic.

My limits are any fluids/bodily waste play, incest, beastiality, harsh degradation, 24/7 toxicity, and probably some others that aren't coming to mind-- I don't really judge tbh, so if you wanna double check, I'd encourage you to ask. We can get into the nitty gritty if we chat.

As for who I am as a person, I'm a bartender with a very solid home setup, and it is not my only source of income lol. I love creative pursuits, I do music, read, write a bunch, cook, keep my place clean, take pride in being a decent human being, and enjoy sharing experiences with people-- from movies to music to recipes to whatever else can be shared. I also like getting to know people, and genuinely tend to take an interest in my sub beyond just what they share in the bedroom. If you happen to play games (of any kind), be into film production, or enjoy Netflix and chill that actually involves watching something, I'm super into all of that. Especially the games; I really love games.

Finally, you! If you're interested, hit me up! If you wanna ask me questions of any kind, feel free to do so. I'm a huge advocate for being super open and honest in this community, cause trust, alignment, and general good vibes are non-negotiable for me. Huge plus if you send pictures as early as you're comfortable with-- sfw is fine, and I'll do the same-- just because it's never fun to realize that the physical attraction isn't there after vibing with a person. But also I will 100% respect pacing, and if you're not comfortable with it, you're not comfortable with it. I'm more than willing to be patient for a good connection. I will say that I generally prefer gals who are fit/smaller, but that's mainly cause I'm lean myself, and it's uhhhhh. More fun for me to either have a physical match or a clear physical advantage. Anyway. If you're still reading, I hope you reach out. And have a fantastic 2025 and a fantastic life beyond just this year!