Good girls don't cum. And you want to be a good girl for me, don't you?

ME

Hi, my name is Ben, I'm from germany and have plenty of experience running online dynamics as a dom. That doesn't mean I'm perfect and always right - surprise! I'm a real human being, not Bigdick McSuperdom. If you're looking for a fantasy to put on a pedestal, look somewhere else. If you're looking for another naughty human to connect and submit to, please read on.

You may also start touching yourself now to enhance the experience.

YOU

And I'm looking for a real human as well, so I'm not going to write any of that "my perfect slave girl...."-nonsense here. I'm excited to get to know you, study the way you tick and build a unique dynamic together with you - not to press you into some pre-made fantasy.

But if reading the word "slave girl" turned you on, that's a good sign. You imagined yourself in that position right away, didn't you?

US?

I'm looking for a sub to develop a long term online dynamic with. Over time, we may try some more extreme things, but I am in no hurry to get there - I'm able to take it slow and do a lot of talking and exploring. I'm a grownup and not some 18 year old fuckboy who will pressure you for everything from the first minute.

I don't mind you being younger and having less experience. To be honest, I enjoy some age gap and guiding a younger partner as she tries out new things. So, whether you already got experience or are completly new, you're welcome either way!

I strongly believe that chemistry matters more than any experience or silly kink tests that tell you you're 89% submissive and 42% masochist. This ad should give you a rough idea about who I am and what I am looking for, but we will only figure out if we have chemistry when we start chatting.

You don't need both hands for that, so no reason to stop with what youre doing..

STYLE OF DOMINATION

I like words, and I have a lot of confidence in my ability to use them well. I'm not a "primal" dom or rough person - I prefer precision and creativity over mindless violence and vulgarity. Think of me as the mad scientist behind the control panel and you as the naked test subject. I will patiently study your reactions and find all the buttons that I can press to take over your mind and body. If that mental image turns you on, we may get somewhere.

BDSM doesn't have to be super serious all the time, I can be silly and I'm here to have fun with you. I can be very mean, but in a playful way and love to play kinky (mind-)games. That doesn't mean I can't be strict when necessary. Some rules to shape our dynamic and define clear boundaries should exist, but you won't need a lawyer to understand them.

And you will be denied one in case you try to avoid punishment for breaking a rule.

POWER AND ITS LIMITS

I'm looking for something 24/7-ish, but not TPE.

I love to have control over some things that reach beyond the time we're directly communicating (for example, orgasm and underwear control). Some of my influence being always active, secretly spicing up your everyday life a little - but not taking it over. I have zero interest in micromanaging you. You need to be an at least mostly functioning adult - we all have our issues, but I am not willing to take over the responsibilty for your life and run it for you.

I enjoy giving a lot of attention and affirmation, and I'll gladly be a friend and support you on bad days, but I'm neither a therapist nor a personal trainer, so I won't manage your exercise or food.

Except for the times when you're going to eat from a bowl on the floor like a good little puppy.

KINKS

My main kinks are orgasm control/denial/chastity/masturbation control and humiliation/degradation. Those are absolutely essential and should be a pillar of our dynamic. I like to tease you, keep you wet and desperate, and make you say and do all kinds of embarrassing things as you hope to get permission to cum.

That aside, I'm into a lot of other kinks as well: I'm a sadist (especially when it comes to making your private bits hurt), I love ENF/CMNF, pee play, I'm quite fond of writing naughty words on your body and controlling your clothing, and butt stuff is fun as well (a hole we can use without risk of you cuming, how convenient!). Oh, and a little bondage goes with almost everything... well, I'm not going to list every kink I know or tried once here, but there's a lot of stuff that isn't essential to me, but I can enjoy and throw into the mix if you're into it.

And remember - you don't have to be into everything I am into as long as there's enough overlap.

As for hard limits: I'm not getting involved in breath play, blood stuff, scat, diapers and ddlg or age play.

We won't need to play the age thing, you'll be a young slut serving an older man for real.

COMMUNICATION

German is my native language, but as this ad should prove, I'm fluent in English as well. As long a you speak one of these two languages and we can make the time zones work somehow, you can be from anywhere in the world.

I'm working from home most of the time (doing IT stuff), so I'm in the comfortable position of having a good amount of flexibility and can usually make time to chat during the day.

In general, I prefer to stay in close contact - we should have at least a short check in on most days, and some quality time together each week. That said, I totally understand that you have a life beyond being some old perverts toy, and I have no problem accepting that you're not always available and other things can be more important. I expect you to respect that I'm not available 24/7 as well.

But I'll gladly leave behind instructions for you to carry out should you get bored in my absence, like ******* your ********* with a **********. Wouldn't that be fun!

BEYOND KINK

I want to get to know you beyond your kinky side and strongly believe that for a healthy, stable and meaningful dynamic, having other common interests and spending some time engaging in them together is really helpful.

I'm a big game nerd to the extend that I sometimes wonder if I am really as grown up as I claimed earlier. Especially RPGs and strategy games, both on the tabletop (like D&D or Warhammer 40k) and the PC. I also read a lot, mainly SF and Weird Fiction, and am into music that is more in the darker and harsher spectrum.

All of these things I can get very passionate about, and having some common ground here isn't a must but would be a big bonus.

And if you refuse to listen to the awful music I share with you, well, bad luck, no cummies for you!

THE MATTER OF PICTURES

Once we decide to get serious together, I'd like to exchange a verification pic (which neither has to be a nude nor show your full face). And beyond that, I will never ask for pictures, video or audio. Never. That's a promise I give you right now. If you want to occasionally share some of those things, I'll happily accept, but being willing to share those things is not necessary in order to enter a dynamic with me.

Willingness to share all your embarrassing little fantasies, however, is.

OH AND ALSO

Okay, these may be some odd things to put in an ad, but I feel like they may be helpful. - Neurodiverse people don't need to be afraid and are very welcome (I'm somewhere on the spectrum myself, if you havent guessed that already). - Love kink, hate facism. Nazi, Maga and AFD subs (if there is such a thing) don't need to apply. - Also, if you think that one gender is really superior to the other, you can fuck off. I may say nasty things to my partner in a dynamic, but in the real world, sexism and misogyny suck and are, sadly, still to widespread.

Hey, why does "widespread" make me think of your legs?

CONTACT

You can contact me here and if you're curios, you should do so right away!

Or finish masturbating first. After all, this might be your last chance to have an orgasm without needing my permission.