Every now and then I have a bit of a scan through the posts on here, but a lot of them seem like fantasies rather than realistic posts, so I thought I’d have a go at posting.

I have some quite extreme kinks, and I’m someone who enjoys a constant power exchange, but I have to want to submit to the person. I’m not looking for someone to fill a gap and bark orders at me straight away.

I want to build a power exchange dynamic between us over time with trust and communication. This could just be friendship with occasional tasks or play when you’re in the mood. My priority is finding someone I click with.

So I’m not wasting anyone’s time, these are potential red flags in case these are important to you:

• I’m poly and owned. My Owner is supportive of me finding other connections, but it does mean TPE is off the table. 
• Long term orgasm control is a limit 
• I’m plus size but successfully working on it. 
• I’m not just after sexual play
• I don’t tend to click well with soft doms or pleasure doms

Outside of kink I’m a bookworm and love getting out into nature as much as I can. I have a huge interest in self development and growth, and I like finding others who are open to learning and change as well. When I need a bit of an escape, I have a tendency to chuck on some music and paint my home ridiculous colours; it’s very much a happy place.

Inside kink, I’m a slave and a suffer slut. I despise pain, but I like to suffer to please the people I respect. I like emotional sadism, CNC themes, and I like being made to cry. I will whinge and complain but will do it anyway, because your pleasure is more important to me than my comfort. Serving, and being useful makes me so incredibly happy. I can be cheeky but I’m not bratty.

I’m a sucker for genuine praise and appreciation, so I have clicked well with daddy types in the past, as long as they are also comfortable being firm. I tend to click very well with sadists and master types.

Things I look for in someone:

• Can hold a conversation, and help carry it. (This is a huge one and the biggest reason things seem to fizzle out.)
• Roughly between 30-50 
• From Australia or New Zealand or a similar timezone. 
• Speaks fluent english
• Naturally dominant (not just someone who puts it on for sexual gratification)

If you think we might click, send me a message. As a minimum, let me know your age and where you’re from. Longer messages tend to capture my attention more than one-liners. 

Thanks for reading, and good luck with what you're looking for xx