I was initially saying I was going to keep this brief and then it ended up not being brief so I'm sorry about that. Still, I'm not the usual kink-explorer on this subreddit so I find it's very important to be descriptive about what I want.
I'm a college student who has been into kink for a long time and has been slowly sinking into a fascination with bimbos and egirls for a few years now. It was a progression: at first I liked the aesthetic, then I thought they were attractive (I'm a bit bi for the right type of woman as it turns out), then the mindset seemed oddly hot too, then I finally made the leap to imagining myself like that. A lot of conversations online, a lot of porn, a lot of role models on social media. It's inescapable how the algorithms will target kinks like this and feed you more of them; I wasn't really prepared for that.
All that said, I've kept all exploration strictly online. I haven't done anything IRL to "bimbofy" or "egirl" myself, and no one IRL knows I have this kink. Or any kink, for that matter; I'm private about my kinks. However, I did have an incident in a Hooters outfit recently which wasn't intended to be kink, but kind of forced itself to become kink in my own head and transformed my entire outlook in a way. Now I'm wondering if I actually should break my strict "online-only" rule. I'm not sure yet and there are pros and cons both ways, but I'm looking to have a discussion with someone about this.
I'm very picky about who I talk to, so I need to put down some bullet points on what to do and what not to do.
You should be:
- Older. I like a "daddy" vibe in my kink chats; something gentle but lightly patronizing and willing to guide/lead the conversation. It doesn't have to be explicitly DDLG of course, but I'd say I enjoy at a minimum a shade of that. Men my age are not good at producing that vibe. Be older. Ideally significantly older.
- Intelligent and articulate. I cannot stand unintelligence in my partners. If you cannot come up with something interesting to say and somewhere interesting to lead the conversation, we won't go far. If you cannot string three words together without a typo/grammatical error/misspelling, we also won't go far.
- Interested and insightful. Ask me questions, learn about me (I'll be genuine if I like you), learn what I like and how my brain works, and pre-empt me. Building a rapport with trust is everything to me. I trust no one online, so you are fighting an uphill battle and need to embrace that challenge if you want to build something with me.
- Ethically and consensually dubious. We are going into a moral gray area here. I embrace that and accept that what I want is something real and something potentially ethically dubious. Be willing to do the same.
- Respectful. I do NOT respond well to outright harassment, degradation, or misogyny. If you want to involve those things, do it in a more subtle, nuanced way over a longer period of time once my defenses are down somewhat. Trust is everything in a dynamic like this
- Willing to embrace subtlety and nuance. Have an understanding of how to manipulate and guide someone. If you don't know how to do this, I cannot teach you and we won't go anywhere.
You should NOT be:
- Younger than me.
- Stupid and vacuous.
- Fixated on appearances. I don't care what you look like (at least not at this stage), I don't want your pics, and I will not tell you what I look like or send you pics until we get to know each other better. I'm more focused on the mental aspect of this and if you're going to be demanding pics five minutes in, it won't work.
- Let me reiterate this and make it more explicit because so many of you seem to have a problem with it and/or don't read it at all:Â do not send me pictures of yourself and do not ask/demand pictures from me. This is a hard limit. Violation of this limit will instantly end the conversation. There will be no debate or argument. You will receive pictures of me when trust and a rapport is established, not before. If you're one of the idiots who is going to insist on immediate "verification", move along and do not waste my time.
- Using emojis and emoticons. This drives me absolutely nuts in kink conversations. I'm not Snapchatting with my friends here; emojis and emoticons of any kind will instantly kill my mood more than you can possibly know. Don't use them. Consider them a hard limit as well.
- Demanding and disinterested about my wants/needs.
- Some kind of white knight or otherwise eye-rolling "protector".
- Forgetting to include the word "orange" in your first message; I'd like you to include it so I know you read this far.
- Disrespectful and misogynistic. Calling me a whore or cunt and demanding that I follow your commands outright will straight up get you reported and blocked.
- Overly brazen and boring.
- Sending me copy/pasted text walls as your first message. You don't have to write a lot, but be genuine and draw my interest.
I'll cut it off there and leave the rest to you. Message me if you're interested. Reddit chat is faster, but if you prefer DMs go for it.
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