Hey everyone! I'm 25M, live in southern Oregon right by the Pacific, and am looking for a kinky partner. I'm no stranger to the space and have had a few kinky relationships, but am currently looking for another long-term match. I've had a few compelling connections that almost became something IRL specifically from r/bdsmpersonals recently, so was interested in putting myself out here again. The scene is pretty sparse where I live; it's beautiful out here on the coast in one of the most Pacific Northwest vibe places there is, but there aren't really many FetLife users, events, etc, and the rest of the scene here is multiple hours away. So, here I am.

Who am I?

Like I said, I'm 25M, straight, with a stable, rapidly rising career in tech and a house I own. I can travel to you or travel you to me basically anywhere - I'm very mobile in general and a spontaneous flight is no issue. I'll share pics with someone I connect with but I'm 5'10", skinny/fit, with a cute face (I like to think, and so I'm told). I'm decently attractive by modern standards - I'm honestly a pretty normal dude. I live by the ocean and enjoy a wide range of hobbies like skiing, reading, and ham radios. I love the outdoors, my garden, my technology, and writing/photography as a creative pursuit. I fly all over the country on the regular for my work, so things keep me busy. I love road trips and once spend 55 days straight living in an RV going to a bunch of national parks, with one of my goals being to visit all of them.

I unironically love the music of Chappell Roan, Mitski, Lana, Chari, and similar. I listen to music pretty much all the time so I have all kinds of stuff on, but take those being current favorites as either red flags or green flags as you will. My favorite philosopher is Ayn Rand and I don't really care much for other philosophers. I will almost assuredly try to show you 12 Monkeys, Dark City, and Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind. For books I love sci-fi, fantasy, and nonfiction esp about polar expeditions or similar adventures.

I've been told I have "golden retriever vibes", that I am a "Lana boy", and that I'm "girl-coded" and a "lesbian boyfriend".

Generally I have an incredibly high sex drive, love to be adventurous during sex, and I also really appreciate how fun more vanilla things can be (kink isn't something I need all the time, but it is something I need in anything long term), and just in general want a relationship with someone who also finds physical intimacy to be a main shared interest of the relationship, as opposed to kind of a nice bonus. I like to hold hands or have you on my arm in public, I like to cuddle and catch a Studio Ghibli, I like little scalp massages, I like casual touches throughout the day. I like someone who wants to flirtatiously message about times we've shared, I like someone who sends me photos of what they're up to.

In general I am kind of a romantic, and am really looking for a connection than I am hookups or anything purely physical/just kink-focused, and ultimately I'd really prefer something that's leading toward a monogamous relationship. I protect my energy and prefer to put my effort towards something kinky, long-term, and emotionally fulfilling than sharing myself with random strangers.

What am I looking for?

I'm honestly into all kinds of kinky things, and have done a lot in the space with my previous partners. I'm pretty much entirely a dom, I really enjoy bondage, orgasm control, gags, all kinds of things, and I definitely have a sadistic side. I love telling someone what a good girl she is and similar. My preferences in general include a lot of things that surround something like being a mad scientist experimenting on a test subject in a lab. I've tried medfet play with some random toys I have there, a lot of play with buttplugs, vibrators, tape/saran wrap, etc. I like the whole "packaging"/girls in boxes kink everyone over at r/packofilia are kinda pioneering, I love extreme machine bondage, also LOVE anything House of Gord. I like CNC but haven't tried it as much. I can get into body writing and some humiliation type stuff; it's kinda fun to see someone perform for me. In general I prefer to keep it tender even if extreme.

Overall I'll really try anything, like I said I'm pretty sexually adventurous, I just prefer to be a dom. I'm open to the TPE 24/7 dynamic or something similar with the right person after some time getting to know each other if it's something in-person.

Honestly I'm just really into the scene in general, and always enjoy being dominant in bed.

My dick is about 6.7 inches without anything too weird about it.

Like I said, I've had a few great conversations on here recently but no actual IRL connections, so just in general figured I'd reach out again and see if anyone was interested. Kinky people are rare and if my post speaks to you, let's see what's up - send me a message!