Hi!

I'm currently looking for a new LTR monogamous submissive partner. Although I'm mainly looking for an

IRL relationship, I'd be more than happy to start LD with the option to relocate in the future.

If your answer to the classic bdsmtest question "I would be willing to leave everything I have behind, to live the BDSM-life of my dreams."

was a clear "No", then this would be a waste of time for both of us no matter how much our interests align.

I'm 32yo, swiss guy, short guy, 1.67m, 70kg, german speaking, brown hair, brownish/green eyes, glasses, broad shoulders,

bit of an overbite (aligner planned), atheist, no tattoos, no piercings, no pets, no kids, no plants.

I am currently working in IT, so my hobbies are naturally very related to technology.

gaming and tv are my main downtime activities. mainly netflix/anime and RPGs.

apart from that I spend my time with friends in pubs, cinemas, dnd sundays or some sporty activity on saturday.

I consider bdsm to be a role I play for fun for me and for my partner.

I'm not a lifestlye dom and treat my partner like a parent's favourite until the doors close.

The things I enjoy doing are mostly based on discussions and consent. So regular communication is key for me.

The limit is what we both enjoy doing.

Things I don't enjoy are fecal/urinal play and permanent scaring, but don't worry

I can be sadistic and would happily flog you until you're red, if that is your poison, but I ain't picking up knives.

Ideally, I'd like to create a deep connection with my forever partner/sub so we could both explore our hardest kinks.

Lighter kinks for me are: bondage (active), sex toys (active), anal (active), degradation (active), spanking or flogging (active).

Harder kinks which I would only consider after a deeper connection are: CNC (active), free use (active/passive) and sleep play (active/passive).

During my previous dynamic, we had a monthly vanilla downtime of one week. During that week the dynamic can be renegotiated before it resumes.

That is a system I'd like to keep because I do think it makes sense to negotiate on equal levels regularly.

Downtime also means no bratting, if you're a brat, and no kink names. That week is equal downtime for both play partners.

I'm not looking for an online-only dynamic/relationship and I'm not looking for a dark romance fan with no experience. I'm sure those 'naturally toxic' guys exist somewhere, but that ain't me. As I said, I consider bdsm a role I play.

I do have experience in the kinks I listed above except free use and although I'd consider myself beginner-friendly, there needs to be some common ground of things we both actually tried and liked.

If you have similar interests or just think we'd be a good fit, I'd love to chat.

ps. I'm attracted to lean as well as moderately plus-sized figures. Don't hesitate because of this reason.