Hello! I know this subreddit focuses on BDSM, but I’m really looking for a true connection and life partner. I’m a software developer that's passionate about building tools that improve people's lives, and I like to have structure and routine to support that, but there's always room for variety and fun on the side!

I’m very passionate about my hobbies and interests and I love discussing them, so I’m hoping we align on a few! I like most kinds of creative media (music, art, movies, books, video games, board games, etc…), with a particular focus on music. I play piano, work on programming for rhythm games, and want to make my own music in the future!

I’ve been described as thoughtful and grounded (personality type INTJ-A). I value deep connections over surface-level interactions in my friendships/relationships, which makes it difficult to be an atheist living near my Christian family, so I’m looking to move to another state soon, and I'm open to relocating again in the future.

Here are a couple key things that we should have in common; hopefully they all resonate with you :)

• Wants a monogamous, long-term relationship without children
• Highly values moral integrity, mutual trust, respecting others’ time, and clear, honest communication
• Does not practice religion
• Has compassion and empathy for others, especially marginalized groups (LGBTQ , etc…)
• Believes it's important to exercise and stay healthy (avoids harmful addictive substances)
• Enjoys comedy/humor, but doesn't require it from their partner (it's always better when natural and unforced)
• Is interested in self-improvement and learning about the world and how things work

Now to talk about some sexual preferences…

Above all, I’m attracted to trust, so I want to take things slowly. It’s important that we can confide in each other without judgement. I'm super open minded and interested in a lot of things! Kinks keep it fun ;) (limits are very bratty subs and anything dangerous, illegal, or super painful/unsanitary)

But of course, the most important part is finding a dynamic that we both enjoy. I naturally prefer playing a dominant role, and my love language is physical touch, so I'm looking for regular physical intimacy with someone I love and trust who likes it just as much as I do :)

I also prefer that we find each other physically attractive, so I'd like to exchange SFW pictures when we're both comfortable with that. I think height difference helps with the dynamic, so you get bonus points if you're shorter than me (6'2") and think size matters (lol).

Thanks for taking the time to read this! Send me a message if you're interested. If not, good luck with your own search :)