Alright here it goes. I’m a 29 year old guy living in the Southwestern US. I have my own house, a great job, am conventionally attractive, and just want something else.. very specific 😉

I have had both vanilla and kinky relationships and eventually found I must have the kinky element involved from the start, as an expectation. It’s just not really realistic to introduce this level of dynamic into a relationship that starts vanilla. So I’m going to lay out my absolute ideal scenario and hope someone out there also finds it enticing. I don’t want to make this a total kink list post, but it’s gonna end up as a bit of one.

First just a little more about me so you don’t have to wonder. Outside of this particular interest, I’m a pretty normal guy who lives a fulfilling life. I have great family and friends. I get out and do interesting things. I love snowboarding, motorcycling, hiking, and skydiving. I am quite ambitious about my future as well.

Physically I am 5’11 and 175lbs. I’m somewhere between fit and dad bod, trying to get more towards the fit side. I’ve been eating a little too good recently. I have medium length hair and a clean cut short beard.

Ok so here are the wants..

First and foremost, I’m looking for someone who is smart and introspective. I know that seems like an odd thing to be first, but it’s important. It’s important because for this to work we need to be on the same page and really understand each other. I can’t understand you unless you can understand yourself (introspective) and communicate it to me (smart). The same goes for you understanding what makes me tick. I am introspective and you need to be able to understand what I tell you (smart).

I also would just love someone to talk to philosophically about any number of things. I’m not at all against having a deep communicative relationship, as long as we know who’s in charge when we get down to business.

You should be extremely kinky and dirty minded. For better or worse, I don’t find plain old vanilla stuff that interesting anymore. As a result, I really want whatever relationship I have next to be centered around a power dynamic, rather than the dynamic be an afterthought.

A LOT of this (in my experience) just comes down to open mindedness and communication. So if you have those qualities, please feel free to reach out. But so you have a better idea, here are some particular kinks and discussion about them, again in no particular order.

• Bondage: A requirement. You should enjoy feeling helpless and like a toy when very restrictively tied up. Sometimes my physical control over you will depend entirely on your obedience, other times through bondage, other times still through my physical will.
• Discipline: A requirement. I’m not into severe discipline but I like it as a tool. I only want to provide as much discipline as you need, to be trainable. Discipline should be something you fear a bit, but not something you fear will leave you permanently damaged.
• Denial: A requirement. This is honestly a big one for me. I particularly like the thought that your pleasure and orgasm belongs to me. Within our dynamic, at no time should you cause yourself sexual pleasure without my permission. This will keep you extremely eager to please, knowing you depend directly on me to get release.
• CNC: I’ll be candid, I’m never sure exactly what this means and I feel like it just served to make the line between consent and no consent blurry. I don’t get off on non consent, but I do like to feel like my sub is doing things they don’t want to do, because they know those things please me.
• Free use: Basically a requirement. You should be ok with being treated like a toy at almost any time when we’re in private. We should be able to go from a completely normal non-sexual situation to you being on your knees at a moment’s notice and at my command.
• Forced Orgasm: A requirement. Imagine being tied up and having no control over your orgasm. This will be semi normal. Sometimes you will be helpless while I cause you to keep cumming until you’re dizzy and exhausted.
• Deepthroat: A requirement. I’m somewhat orally fixated at this times. You should either already be skilled at deepthroating OR find the prospect of being “deepthroat trained” exciting. Eventually you should expect to have your throat more or less treated like just another hole.
• Anal: I think at this point I could take or leave anal, at least as far as penetrative sex goes. I do however very much like anal toys. You should expect to be plugged at various times and often during play.
• Degradation/Humiliation: This one is sort of optional. I’m not very into degrading language, but I do seem to like activities that could be considered degrading or humiliating to the sub. I’m not fully against degrading names if that’s something you’re into.
• Public: Meh. I don’t really find the prospect of involving the public in our sexual lives that exciting. Having said that, there can be a small humiliation aspect to this. I do like one single scenario: taking you out into public while plugged and a remote control vibe inserted. This is hot because I would have full control of your orgasm just as we go about in public.
• CMNF: A potential interest. I would like to try clothing restrictions, perhaps in which you would not be allowed any clothes while in my home or yours, making you seem more like a sexual object.
• Sensory deprivation: A requirement. It’s extremely hot to think of the experience you’d have being able to see and hear nothing, focused purely on your body being played with and used. This wouldn’t be an “all-the-time” thing, just sometimes when I feel like it.

Requirements for you: - Close to fitness, or working on it. I don’t think I’d pursue anything like this with someone who would call herself a “BBW”. Even if you do have some extra pounds, I would like you to be interested in fitness/health culture and be seeking to have a better understanding of what good health looks like. - Between 20-30 years old. I’m slightly flexible on either end of this. - Open minded about people and points of view. I don’t usually get along with people who come into stuff with all sorts of preconceived notions. I will happily talk and be close to people of any background and political affiliation. I’m a very independent thinker. - US-based. This will just make everything easier. If you are outside the US, we can still talk and maybe you’ll change my mind.. - Not bratty. This is kind of hard to describe. I’m not 100% against some pushback. If you test your limits sometimes and get yourself into situations where I have to discipline you, that’s ok. But you should largely be obedient and eager to do as you’re told. You certainly shouldn’t try to dominate the relationship or push your luck when you’re already given an answer.

Alright I hate to end this so abruptly. I will add more as I think of things. For now, please feel free to reach out if this interests you or if you’re even curious.