Hello to you, post reader. This title may look self explanatory, but adding more informations here can be beneficial if you message me and we start a conversation.

As a foreword, I would like to say that trust is everything to me. Being able to trust each other enough to give oneself to the other, is for me one of the most beautiful things that exist, and I will take it with honor, and with gratitude. The more I trust someone, the harsher and controlling I can be. I see it as a great proof of love, and care. What I'm looking for is a wholesome dynamic that transcends the relationship, but that means there is a need to build a relationship first.

I am 32, 1.80m a dom from France, looking for an online dynamic at the start (unless you're in my region), but keep in mind I want a long-term in person relationship. About me : half french, half spanish, my first passion is learning, new things, facts, languages, skills... Anything. I don't really fit into any category, as my interests can vary greatly from intellectual stuff, to physical stuff. Lately, I've been a musician and music teacher, but I have been a math nerd, a bike travel maniac, a language enthusiast, in some previous years, just to mention a few things. I value an open mind, honesty, and deep convresations, as much as emotional bonds.

Important not : I'm autistic, adult-diagnosed just so you know.

What I'm looking for :

A dynamic and relationship. In the long run, it doesn't matter how experienced you are, everyone is different, every dom is different, and every sub is different. I'm looking for a dynamic where my future partner is my sub, both some genuine feeling of love and care (built over time), as well as a complete submission (built over time as well). In the long term, I want to be able to care for each other, while I take more responsibilities of leading you through life, and you entrust me some of the choices (more information in the kink section).

What this means is that we would have to give each other a decent amount of our time. Doing things together, vanilla and kink, is for me the key to build a long lasting bond.

About my kinks :

I have mainly 3 kinks, declined into various related kinks.

1. Oral : I absolutely love receiving heads, and anything to do with oral play brings about my imagination in the play, so you should already enjoy that if you decide to contact me. It leads to many of my kinks : free use, cock worship, cockwarming, basically blowjobs as a language of love and submission. Be it a forced play if we're both into it, or some soft caring mutual oral sex, the spectrum is wide and I will never be bored of it.

2. Control : ranging from orgasm and sexual control, to full tpe, with all the inbetweens. I just love feeling that you give yourself up to me, entrusting me with various aspects of your life. First thing is orgasm control, deciding when my partner is allowed to indulge in sexual pleasure, forcing sexual pleasure, chastity. etc. I also want to include some part of non sexual control : outfit control, influence some habbits (I like self improving challenges, both for myself and my sub), etc. This can be very vague, it entails many possibilities, and the only correct ones depends on what we are both into.

3. Collars/leashes/outfit fetish : somehow related to the previous one, I am very fond of collaring my sub, and giving to the process a symbolic meaning, ownership-like. It does not have to be a "collar" for collaring, it can be some other accessories, bracelet, necklace, garter, ring... The important thing for me is the ritualization of it. Connected to that, outfit fetish, I love to tell my sub to wear specific clothes

Additional one : ddlg, and daddy play. This one is very marginal, and can do without. It is in my character to be sadistic as much as caring, so bringing the "caretaker" aspect into the dynamic is something I enjoy, as I tend to do it naturally.

About you :

I'm looking for a sub with a gentle personality, being myself naturally gentle and easy going. Brats are not for me. Not that I can't deal with a bit of bratting, but it should not be the main focus. As I said, if you have experience or not isn't important, I want to meet you as you are. Being curious, open minded, and having empathy is required tho. I'm into gaming too, so you shouldn't be judgemental of that hobby (and yes, I'm saying that because I met previous subs who were). Geographic location doesn't matter as long as we manage time for each other.

Ideally, you are younger than me (age gap appreciated).

Physically, don't have absolute criterias, but willingness to explore things to suit your dom's taste is a plus. I'm looking ideally for someone who can contrast with me appearance-wise.

Thank you for reading through this.

If all this talk has inspired you, feel free to reach out in my messages, we will stay on the reddit chat for now, I hope you understand. And if not, best of luck with your search as well.