I’m looking to date someone with the hope of a long-term relationship, but also open to a play partner if the dynamic feels right. I tried monogamy and polyamory in the past, and definitely looking for a monogamous or monogam-ish relationship. I like being someone’s primary partner, falling in love, and all the cliches that go along with it. Any sort of ENM aspect would ideally be playing together in local Chicago area spaces like GD2.

I’m caucasian with dark brown eyes, short brown hair. I like it so that when you run your hand up the back of my head it feels kind of spikey and makes my head tingle, and just long enough on top so you can grab it. I keep my look simple and clean-cut, and prefer my face smooth at all times. I usually wear glasses, but sometimes go without. I’m 5’11”, 230lbs with a solid build. Partners have found it difficult to put clothespins on my body in the past to give you an idea of what I mean. People have also commented on my soft hands and strong calves, of all things. I have body hair, but keep it neatly trimmed, as it makes me feel more confident with my body. I’ll gladly share photos once we’ve start talking, but that should give you a good idea of what I look like.

I know that kink and BDSM is an important part of my personality, as I’ve been kinky my entire life. I consider myself a submissive leaning switch, so can get into both sides of the slash. I could go without being dominate in a dynamic, but could not go without being submissive.

When I’m submissive, I enjoy power exchange dynamics that involve bondage, chastity, tease and denial, and impact play. I love giving up control for an amount of time determined by my partner until they want to give it back. Though I could see that changing if I was with a partner that was really into control and wanted more of it.

When I’m dominate, I like to act as a service top and explore my partner’s desires. Otherwise, I enjoy playing with bondage, impact play, and forced orgasms. It excites me to give someone pleasure to the point of exhaustion, to make them nervous, and use them as I want to. And then know that payback could be coming, haha.

I want to explore BDSM with a partner that is equally into it and gets excited to try new things together. I’m incredibly open minded when it comes to kink. And if we know that we align in those way to start, we can focus on seeing if a connection is there in other ways. If you want to talk about specific kinks we can, since it’s quite fun to do, but please lead the conversation in that direction when you’re ready.

Sexual compatibility is just one part though. As for more about me, I’m kind of nerdy but no single interest defines my personality. I’m into playing board games and get together weekly with friends to do it. Social deduction games are quickly becoming a favorite as well! I really just enjoy interacting with other people and doing group activities, and it seems like games has been how I’ve made the best friends that are similar to me.

Sushi is one of my favorite foods, and I will gladly split my meal with you at a restaurant to try more things. Love seeing standup in Chicago. Going to concerts when a favorite band is in town a few times a year. I’ll line up early to get in the front row sometimes.

For TV and movie favorites I enjoy comedies and drama, but not much of a binge watcher. My style of humor is more like The Office and Nathan For You, with a serialized drama thrown in the mix if it’s really good. I’d add MCU to the list, but I’ve been losing interest recently with hope they can turn things around. My idea of a nice vacation is going to someplace warm in the winter to escape this Chicago weather, an amusement park, or going to Vegas and seeing all the Cirque du Soleil shows and a concert at The Sphere. Please don’t ask me to go camping! Haha

I want to see your face glow with excitement as you tell me about what you’re passionate about. Talk on the phone before bed to catch up on each other’s day if we are apart. Go to the city and enjoy great food together, taking bites of the same thing together so we know we’re experiencing the same flavors. And then head home at the end of the night and have fun exploring each other’s fantasies! Want to go to the local clubs like GD2 and do a scene there? I’d be down for that too.

I’m from the north burbs, but it’s practically Chicago. Close enough to still take the CTA in, drive 15 minutes to Logan Square, or 20 minutes to Roger’s Park/Edgewater. I find myself in those places the most. Up for meeting people out in the suburbs as well, but not looking for a long distance relationship either. My last relationship had a 1 hour drive to meet each other, and I think that’s my limit.

Send me a message (chat or DM) if you’re interested. I’d love to chat for a bit and meet up sooner than later. Really depends on if we can catch each other in real time.