Ever feel like there’s something inside you that’s just fucked up? I do feel that at times, and I want to connect to a cis female who feels the same. Girls in the UK or Europe preferred for time zone reasons.

Often it’s frustrating, like there’s something that’s always going to prevent me finding total satisfaction in a healthy way with a partner.

That’s why I still come here. I’m looking for my people, somebody who just doesn’t fit with conventional sexuality, perhaps a girl who finds it easier to get off with porn than with a man, somebody who has a hunger for connection on some dark and twisted level.

This is a topic that fascinates me, and I want to find an intelligent, articulate and open girl to discuss it with. —— I’m looking for a genuine and intimate connection with a submissive girl who I can establish a deep connection with on multiple levels.

As for what kind of person I am: I’m dominant, patient and emotionally intelligent, and secure in my sexuality and role.

I’m only attracted to CIS females please, as the things I’m interested are very specific to that experience.

In my experience there is a kind of connection between trauma and kinks, maybe something happened in your past or something was done to you, and strangely your brain takes you back to that moment or that topic in a way that excites you for some reason.

One way these secret and often shameful kinks can express themselves is in what porn you look at. Maybe even looking at porn at all is shameful in itself. Shame is part of this strange psychological mix that intrigues me so much.

Hopefully there is a girl reading this that feels and understands what I’m saying and wants to discuss it.

If so, message me on Reddit chat with what triggers you…

I’m 41, from the UK. My kinks are psychology, control, Ddlg, humiliation, porn and objectification- among others.