Are you frustrated by the conversations you've had on here but not ready to dive back into the ‘App Carousel’? Are you a relatively normal person with a healthy interest in kink, looking for a relatively normal person with a healthy interest in kink? Do you want a fit, professional guy who has his life together, looks like he could get a date in the real world, and happens to be a Dom? Excited about dating someone who keeps it spicy in the bedroom while having a life of friends, hobbies, and interests outside of kink?

If so, I might just be your guy. And if you’re interested in someone who’ll ask about your day before asking anything else, you’re in the right place. Keep reading—if it resonates, send me a message! This is me: https://imgur.com/gallery/820BcWM

Who am I?

• Profession: Data Scientist
• Side Gig: Consultant
• Location: Midwest (but I travel a lot for work)
• Professional Interests: Public Policy, Analytics, Market Research, Economic Analysis
• Height: 6 ft
• Age: 34
• Weight: 209 lbs
• Build: Athletic
• Style: Bearded Midwest Urbanite meets Lumberjack vibes

Hobbies and Interests

I have a demanding career I value, but I’m ready to make time for the right dynamic and relationship. Outside of work, I dive into adventures that fuel personal growth and exploration. Whether it’s planning a mountaineering trip (Mount Rainier is next on my list), discovering hidden gems in new cities, or perfecting a new recipe, I stay active and curious.

I’m also passionate about fitness and nutrition but balance that with my love of cooking and indulging in culinary experiences. And books? They’re a staple. I’m currently reading Innovation by Ian McNiven and Always Coming Home by Ursula K. Le Guin—her world-building is incredible. What’s on your reading list?

Who you might be

Here’s an incomplete list of qualities and experiences I’d love to find in a partner. You don’t need to check all the boxes—just a few that resonate!

• You’ve had your share of disappointing experiences here but are still seeking something meaningful.
• You’re into fitness or excited to get into it with a supportive partner.
• You love traveling, discovering cozy bookstores, or finding the perfect hole-in-the-wall Chinese place.
• You’re eager to explore your sexual side but want to build a real connection first.
• You value friendship as the foundation of a relationship.
• You’ve read erotica and have fantasies you’d love to try with the right person.
• You have a travel bucket list and are looking for someone to explore it with.
• You’re seeking a stable, long-term relationship but are patient and willing to build with the right person.
• You crave a mix of adventures—long hikes, cozy lake cabins, urban cultural trips, or international escapades.

What I’m looking for

Something that starts slow—probably online. I listed cities I frequently visit for work in the title, so if you’re near one, great! If not, that’s okay too—I’m willing to put in the effort for the right person. Extra points if you're in the Philly / Baltimore / DC / NoVa area.

I’d love to talk and get to know you. After a few weeks, we can meet—platonically at first if you prefer. I’m looking for a connection: someone I genuinely enjoy talking to and care about.

After building trust, we’ll establish a dynamic that’s central to our relationship without defining all of it. And in the long run, I’m open to relocation (probably moving this year anyway).

Kinks

I have them, I promise. I feel most at home in guidance and caregiving roles, fostering a virtuous cycle: Trust & Communication → Exploration → Submission → Trust & Communication, and so on. We can dive into specifics as we get to know each other.

If you’ve made it this far, fantastic! I hope something here resonated with you. Message me and tell me about yourself—Where are you from? What are you looking for? What’s the best book you read last year? Your favorite thing to cook?

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