Happy New Year, future sub! I’m not one for resolutions, but a new year is a good time for new beginnings, so now that the holiday rush is over I'm here to find you: a cis-F who wants the whole package of life-long normal relationship intertwined with submission, the one who craves the duality of love and degradation, of kindness and cruelty, of protectiveness and control.

About Me

Physically I am white, shaved head, dark/salt-and-pepper beard, 176cm (approx 5’9½”), 110kg (approx 250lbs), no tattoos (yet), no piercings. Happy to exchange pictures early on so we can see if we have mutual attraction.

I’m located in Ontario, Canada (Toronto-KW-Hamilton area) and have no plans to relocate for the foreseeable future. I enjoy driving so most of the province is what I'd call "local". The rest of Canada isn't too far by plane either. Beyond that there’s obviously bigger challenges in terms of residence, visas, etc, but it’s not necessarily off the table so long as meeting up and eventual cohabitation is a viable goal.

I am a mix of contrasts and opposites and in many things I delight in the enhancing effect of dualities. In a relationship I am protective and “parental” yet degrading, strict yet spoiling, kind yet sadistic. I find that opposites make each other more intense - it’s so much better when we mix up cuddling on the couch with a nice pain or degradation session, no?

I’ve been called kind and steady. I’m patient and calm, and deal well with neediness. I have a career in software development, so I’m usually available for contact throughout the day. I value good and clear communication, and while I’m not perfect at it, I try to constantly improve. I never ghost. I prefer good girls over brats, though I welcome playfulness and silliness.

STI-clean and happy to get tested when the time is right (as I would expect you to). I rarely/socially enjoy an edible or a drink, and don’t do other drugs.

Hobbies

In vanilla life I enjoy travel, especially leisurely vacations and exploration, though this is a relatively new discovery and I still have a lot of places to cross off my list. I enjoy PC games, particularly those that emphasize thinking and planning rather than reaction time or competition. In no particular order I also enjoy hiking, camping, anime, going to conventions, road trips, TV (sci-fi, fantasy, drama), science, astrophysics, astronomy, the psychology of kink, gardening, and exploring foreign cuisines. I enjoy energetic, upbeat, or intense music and typically listen to metal (I got to see two bands I love this year!), balkan pop/rap, K-pop, japanese metalcore, and other similar sounds. I speak four languages, though only two fluently. In general I love involving you in my interests and taking an interest in your hobbies.

Kinky me

I have lived a kinky life since my early twenties and all my relationships since have had D/s dynamics of various intensity levels. I am very open minded and someone who you can share any fantasy/kink with without scaring me off. I’ve gained a fair amount of experience in a very wide variety of kinks, some falling under the RACK philosophy. However, don’t let my experience intimidate you if you are new or inexperienced. I've enjoyed teaching new subs in the past and can be patient and a good guide. It’s also ok if your limits are more restrictive than mine, or if you don’t yet know your kinks/limits. Kinks are like the tools in a toolbox, just because there’s many options, it doesn’t mean that we need to use all of them.

Kinks:

impact play (bare hand and cane are favorites, but my collection is extensive), pain, degradation, humiliation, age gap, traditional gender roles, collars, CNC, TPE, restraints, behavior modification, orgasm denial/control, forced orgasms, outfit/appearance control, speech control

Limits:

scat, diapers, age regression to very young ages, and in general life/health-ruining extremes.

Compatibility snapshot:

• I’m an atheist, it’s ok if you’re spiritual or mildly religious, but I probably won’t match well with someone who’s deeply religious.
• I am the parent to an older teenager, and do not intend to have more children (no drama or custody issues, and I am fully divorced)
• Looking for in person or realistic long-distance-to-in-person
• Looking for cis-F for a relationship D/s dynamic that tends to TPE
• Between jobs, but financially comfortable so dinner and bubble tea is still on me
• Politically left-leaning and big on personal freedoms
• COVID vaccinated and you should be too