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I'm a 35-year old guy from the Netherlands, living in the Randstad area, just outside of The Hague. And to be honest, I've had difficulty finding people I really connect with! After a long period of trying to use dating apps without much in the way of success, I thought of where else I could try my luck and decided to take to Reddit.

There's honestly not much I ask for in a relationship - just good communication, kindness and shared hobbies/interests are enough for me. The last one can be difficult however, because I'm autistic, which results in... well, me not having many different interests, as I prefer to put all my time into a smaller amount rather than spreading myself thin. A big one recently has been kink - I found out I'm pretty submissive years ago, but have not yet been able to put this into practice in a relationship.

That being said, I do have some experience on a more casual level, and being autistic does come with its perks on this front - I consider myself much more devoted than most, and I'm also an extremely fast learner. Just explain something to me once and I'll most likely be able to remember it perfectly from then on. Despite the lack of experience I do already know I consider this quite important, so I am hoping to meet someone dominant or a switch. Feel free to ask for specific kinks, as I have quite a few - though bondage, domestic servitude and chastity are a couple.

Outside of kink, my interests primarily include gaming, anime, animals, nature and essentially anything related to Japan. I've been there five times and I'd recommend anyone else thinking about it to go as well, it's well worth the effort! If you consider yourself even the slightest bit nerdy/geeky or also have a love for Japan I think we'd be off to a great start already.

Appearance-wise I am Caucasian (born in the Netherlands), 183cm tall, with short black hair and brown eyes. I'm perfectly willing to send a picture of my face but I'd prefer to do that via DM/chat, so just ask for it if you want one.

I consider myself open to a lot (from something more casual to something serious), and would love to hear from anybody who thinks we have stuff in common and is similarly looking for something longterm. I'm looking to build up a strong connection with someone, chatting regularly and really getting to know each other extremely well, even occasionally doing things together, like playing a game or watching a movie.

I should mention I'd much prefer not to keep things exclusively online - I'd like to meet up irl eventually, so it would be nice if you live in the same country or at least elsewhere in Europe. If I meet someone super special I'd be open to making things work even across a longer distance though, so if you feel that we would match well but you live across the ocean, don't be shy and shoot me a message anyway! Tell me a little bit about yourself - how about telling me about a piece of media you recently really enjoyed, be it a game, show or movie?

I'd prefer to meet people around my own age, maybe 27-43. If you think we'd be a good match and you're just outside that range however feel free to send a message too!

PS: Ik spreek ook Nederlands, natuurlijk!