Those who enthusiastically practice the Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism spectrum of sex invariably explored and refined their hot and wild fantasies by privately masturbating to them, in the blinding light of fantasyland, before acting out their fantasies with consensual, like-minded others, in the real world.

But have you found that sex with others often requires considerable time, travel, and space for acting out BDSM fantasies, and is not as convenient as hot and steamy hedonistic masturbation fantasies... or at least you feel the need to balance real life BDSM sex with equal quality time for masturbation?

Do you sometimes feel alone in the world because of this belief?

Reflect for a moment: the arts enjoy enormous prestige in our society, while masturbation certainly does not. And yet there are some fascinating correlations between the creativity, focus, and skill involved in both processes.

The classical theory of the arts -and masturbation, holds that life will never provide absolute perfection. And the task of the artist, and the masturbation aficionado, therefore is to edit reality, and then visualize and compose an ideal, from the raw material of life.

In the arts, that which is dispersed in reality, is beautifully gathered into one. There is something of the same maneuver in masturbation, but the fantasy we're masturbating about may not so neatly appear in one place in life, but where we can skillfully condense, correct, combine, and add and subtract, we enable ourselves to get to our goal. Masturbation is, in many ways, art's equally created sibling, and truly one of the miracles of the universe.

Think about it, and consider my proposal, one that will allow us to enjoy a hot and erotic friendship that is completely safe and completely free of moral complications.

Expressing our joys of self-pleasure can prove to be both racy and fun, and yet still be a class act. And our naughty-lite secret life can flourish, without damage to any existing relationships. Contact sex these days is fraught with risk, and can have a devastating effect on an existing relationship.

We'll occasionally keep in touch, meeting for coffee, to rekindle, to fill an occasional void. When two become intimate, over time their relationship develops and cultivates unique and exciting customs and habits. And more so with an erotic friend and confidant, where the level of intimacy is elevated.

Auto-erotica, a most basic of biological functions, takes on an entirely new meaning when one finally connects with their true erotic soulmate. Masturbation does in fact become far better and more deeply satisfying than partner sex. And as erotic friends, together, we'll create our own beautiful alternate universe, becoming shameless and proud, even boastful about our auto-erotic skills and adventures.

There's nothing like masturbating to an intense orgasm, falling into a deep sleep afterwards, and awakening an hour or two later, or the next morning, with a feeling that is beyond peace. Yet, for most of us, this experience is accompanied by a post-masturbation depression (or guilt, as interpreted by some).

But sending a quick, enthusiastic communication to your erotic soulmate, boasting about your mind-blowing experience... and your trusted friend warmly responding with unconditional acceptance, encouragement, and praise. And any post-masturbation depression instantly evaporates, turning into pure exhilaration and shared joy.

Both of us will enjoy and engage in intimate, erotic conversation, in celebration that auto-erotica is far better than sex. We will be quite smug in our belief that we had achieved mastery over the raging libido in our minds and bodies, and have risen to higher spiritual and metaphysical levels of auto-erotic nirvana and intimacy.

You will not be disappointed. I am 55 years old, educated, fit, handsome, and active. After we correspond and begin to trust each other, and before we meet, I can provide you with links to many of my fun activities and projects (not at all sexual in nature), as I'm active in the community.

I will seriously consider a woman of any adult age, size, height, race, distance, and physical condition.

Think about it. When you encounter an opportunity in life that feels right, you owe it to yourself to check it out.

But what are your thoughts on this? I'd love to hear from you.