Are you a stern Daddy Dom? Do you want someone you can reprimand just as much as praise? Is getting inside someone's head and exploiting their psychological hang-ups for your sadistic ends just as appealing as spanking?

If so, I might be right for you :-)

I am looking for a Daddy who finds pleasure in being a possessive, protective, guiding presence in his baby's life. I want to be controlled - what I wear, eat, do - because Daddy knows what's best for me and wants to make sure I get it. To me, paternalism means knowing when to be doting and indulgent, and knowing when to firmly lay down the law.

What you get:

• Absolute devotion - I am very loyal and affectionate, and want to make you feel powerful, fulfilled, loved, and respected by showing you how much your domination affects me

• A mix of femininity and masculinity (he/they) - I have had top surgery and previously been on testosterone therapy but currently look very androgynous, 5'5 with shoulder length hair, a slender build, and dimples

• Someone who loves trying new restaurants, going to museums and historical places, talking about politics and culture, leftist but not shy about engaging with all viewpoints. I love to read and have a number of creative hobbies

• An independent, highly educated sub who can engage on a philosophical and intellectual level, but really wants to be reduced to a simpering, dependent mess

• Someone to mentor and guide through life, who is eager for approval and reinforcement and wants to defer to your expertise

What I am looking for:

• A Dom who can be patronising as well as nurturing. I need degradation just as must as I need praise. Soft Doms are lovely, and I need a bit of softness, but I also want someone who can get under my skin and really fuck around in there for their own pleasure

• Someone with the time and capacity to be present day-to-day. I can be clingy, and I like feeling wanted in return. However, I also understand that we all have waxing and waning availabilities (myself included) and this is remedied by clear communication

• I have a massive military kink, and want someone who is disciplined, intelligent, reliable, competent, physically strong, and well spoken, while unafraid to get dirty when necessary

• As per the military kink, I am fine with not being in the same place for long periods of time, and I can be satisfied with online-only play so long as there is a large overlap in waking hours. There are some time zones that just don't work for me. Video and voice calls are essential. I really like masculine voices, and need a steady verbal element in play

• An amount of brat taming. I don't mean to be disobedient out of nowhere, but sometimes I get stubborn and need to be set straight. I want boundaries and accountability, and to earn my praise

• Someone verbose and creative. I like to read and write erotica, and have a pretty high standard for messaging/dirty talk. I want all the pomp and circumstance! Lay it on thick, be direct, and don't expect me to do all the talking!

• Please don't be straight. I am a non binary boy, and will not fetishise myself or hide my masculinity

What I am offering:

• A dynamic that suits your desires (with negotiation and communication). Do you want to set tasks, give rules, video/text sessions, check ins, photos, something else? Let me know!

• I love to travel and would be happy to visit anywhere in the world once a connection has been established

• A companion. Tell me about your day, let me soothe you and help you unwind. I'll let you into my life as much as you want to be in it, and give all my problems to you to fix if you desire, and listen to yours in return

Kinks:

I am not going to give a laundry list of kinks, because physical acts depend entirely on the partner for me. I am open to trying what you like. My kinks are more in the realm of psychological masochism, and are therefore less about the actual object and more about the feeling it invokes. Humiliation and degradation are a good starting point, but you must be willing to engage with taboo kinks, which can be discussed in more detail if we connect.

Bonus points if you are into leather, motorcycles, cars, DIY, woodworking or any other 'traditionally masculine' hobby.

If you're still here:

Send me a message! Even if there are some misalignments, we can chat about the commonalities. (For example, if you are a Dom who fits this profile, but don't see yourself as a Daddy - that's ok!)

But please, I ask again, make it impactful and charming. I am a writer, and it is words that do it for me more than anything else. If I have to coax conversation from you, we are not going to work out.