Kink and Domination often goes instantly to the punishment and rewards rather than the bond built through the dynamic itself. For me, I'll never truly feel closer to someone simply because they spank me, tie me up, etc. The thing that makes me feel that bond with someone is the words spoken, the gentle movements, the praise, the affirmation.
I want to build a bond that goes deeper than play or excitement. I'm past the stage in my life where meaningless moments are enticing to me. I want something/someone that makes me feel something. Someone who I can enter my sub space and feel genuinely connected to.
My kinks are less important to me, as I think that with every par wastner you should require conversations, negotiations, and open dialogue about the things you share and do not share. In general however, I really gravitate toward those that are naturally Dominant, gentle, and more focused on praise over punishment. I like to be good.
As for me, I'm your average middle aged guy, single and a parent of one. I live a happy life with animals around me, so I have nothing to complain about. I enjoy weird adventures, binge watching a good show, trivia, thrifting, etc. I hate corduroy, but I try to not hate.
In a partner, I hope to find someone who is patient and kind. I appreciate someone who is direct and willing to challenge me when I'm wrong about something...even if I fight it kicking and screaming 🤣
I hope I hear from you soon if you're interested. While I am looking for an in person dynamic leading to a relationship, I am open to the possibility of online if there is a good click and voice calls would be a big part of the dynamic. I'm not the best at texting consistently.
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