This may sound odd, but vanilla qualities take priority in my search. Not that kink isn't important, it is. It's just that I'm flexible across the d/s spectrum, within limits of course. Some may call that switch, but I try to avoid labels, on myself and on others.

I'm a quick study, academically inclined. Got great SATs but not smart enough to get a PhD at 16. (Yes they offer SATs in NZ for kids who for some crazy reason want to move across the ocean to go to college in the states)

I believe you don't need to be religious to have good morals. People eating grapes off the shelf at supermarkets annoy me.

I'm emotionally stable and I'd like to think I'm a good listener. I'm not a violent or confrontational guy, but when situation calls for it, I rarely back down. I believe my prefrontal cortex has good control of my limbic brain.

I'm not a grammer police, but misusing the apostrophe shows someone wasn't paying attention in school.

I work hard and have a stable life that allows me to not fret too much about inflation.

I look after myself by exercising, not using substances, take reasonable precautions like sunscreen, and take calculated risks. No, I won't take that helicopter ride knowing the dismal crash rate.

I value learning and self improvement. I'm exhilarated by new knowledge and its application.

I'm open minded. I'd like to think most kinky people are. Many people are into poly, enm and the like, good for them. I'm unsure how it works. So I'm not seeking it.

I'm seeking like minded women who may also find me LTR-worthy. But if you're not sure about ltr but find our values align, I'm happy to hear from you too.

OK, now the fun stuff. I find many kinky activities fascinating. I won't claim to be an expert in anything, but I'm familiar with most. Unless you have an extremely narrow set of kinks, I'm likely compatible, kind of like the O-neg blood type.

My limits are permanent harm, scat, body modifications, extreme pain, blood, unsafe play practice, and anything that's considered extreme even in kink.

I'm open to getting to know and hopefully meeting potential matches even if it means international travel. Life's too short to settle. Don't you think?

Well, if you share the same values and believe we will get along great, I'd love to hear from you. You don't need to be a hot twenty year old blonde and I don't need to be tall dark and handsome. Though I need to say I'm not ugly 😎