I stopped online dating a few months ago because I was tired of the predictable pattern of endless messaging, followed by the occasional date that is pleasant, but lacks chemistry. Now that the holidays have begun their death march and we approach the season of cold, lonely evenings, it feels right to try and connect with others.

About me: At first glance, I appear to be the well-educated, professional, divorced mom, who likes to read, garden, and lose her shit over other people's pets. While I am that person, I love the fact that like most of us, I hold multitudes of contrasting elements: tattoos under the suit jacket, subtle profanity or nudity in my craft projects, DIY skills ranging from refinishing furniture to a halfway decent manicure. Bad news/Good news: I don't like pop music, rarely watch TV, and I have zero interest in sports.

Physically, I'm cute, but not gorgeous. Slightly taller that average and unexpectedly strong. Short blonde hair and glasses. My best qualities are based on my personality. I'm smart without being a dick about it, have a great sense of humor, and am fun. I'm extremely kind, loving, affectionate. You know how it's common to hear people say, "I hate people?" I'm the opposite of that. I love people.

What I'm looking for: a friendly person who lives on the north side or near north suburbs. Please be politically/socially left, open to new things, and have the typical adult checkboxes ticked (job, stable housing, etc).

I'm attracted to guys who are taller than I am (5'10" please) and have masculine features. Extra points for strong hands. I need you to be physically dominant, able to provide verbal praise, and a fan of giving and receiving oral. I'm not into extreme pain, degradation, or toilet anything. Beyond that, I'm very open, but I'm not interested in discussing particulars right away. Dynamics need to be built and explored. Kink is not a checklist.