Here we are, back at it again, with a few more experiences, almost-theres, cautionary tales, and more input to inform this slightly revised version of my ad. Thanks for coming everyone; hopefully 2025 will be a year of more kink, amirite? Let’s get into it!

What I can provide: A male-led, taken in hand lifestyle relationship. Not just a side thing, not just something done in the dark to get my rocks off, not something that starts online because of distance or stays online because it’s just a fantasy and you can’t fathom fantasies being in a real, ACTUAL relationship. Wild, I know. This means something that has kink structure, but also has vanilla crossover. I like to give orders and instructions, micromanage and examine, spank, but I also want to snuggle while we watch Netflix. Think a 1950’s lifestyle but more modern, ideally with heavy TPE overtones, as that tends to leave me the most fulfilled.

What I’m NOT Looking for: I’m not interested in being a full-time side-piece whenever you need to get your rocks off, far-reaching or full time ageplay, or anything approaching a relationship where you are only available when porn isn't enough for you to get off.

About Me: In purely ‘talking shop’ terminology, I tend to describe myself as a dom (obviously). I’d say I’m mostly kind and loving with a bit of a sly edge. Some things I enjoy are reading, theatre, cafe-hopping, long walks to nowhere and everywhere, hopelessly vying for my parent's cats love and affection, the feeling of a fresh set of sheets, bubblebaths, dry red wine, and the classic Christmas movies and tv shows. And some big picture bulletpoints: I’m single, monogamous, no kids, and has a job.

About You: We all have needs, wants, and preferences, and the list version of some of my big ones are below. These are just some general guidelines, so if you don’t check every single box exactly but still feel we’d be an amazing fit, message me anyway and show me.

• Single
• Monogamous
• Submissive (yes you can be submissive if you are high level manager in your vocation)
• Gainfully employed or studying
• No serious/unmedicated mental health issues
• Looking for something IRL and longterm
• Doesn’t use dominance as an excuse for abuse, trauma, or misogyny
• Doesn’t try to turn this into some cringe-worthy roleplay as an escapist exercise
• Enthusiastic and curious about everything kink
• Experience isn't a prerequisite, usually ones without experience are more humble and open. So don't count yourself out too quickly
• You have the ability to hold a meaningful conversation (yes needs to be said!).

Also, please understand I’m also a human and I look for a reciprocal partner. So I’m not just looking to only provide a framework and discipline for you to thrive under but also the same type of attention that continues to fuels the my desire to give you that discipline you seek. If I see things slipping or feel like you’re not okay, I will question you and break that fourth wall when needed; it’s not a disrespect thing, it’s a good person thing.

The Fun Stuff: You’ve made it this far, so let’s talk brass tacks. My broad kinks include:

• 24/7 TPE
• Wardrobe control
• Bathroom control
• Meal/Exercise control
• Orgasm control
• Impact
• Hairpulling
• Spitting
• Primal
• DDLG
• Ropes/Restraints
• Praise
• Humiliation/Degradation
• Anal/Anal training
• Breeding
• Displays of ownership

Some things I have no interest in/are my limits: group, blood/gore/vomit, extreme sadism, animals/furries.

I know this is a long ad, so thanks for sticking with me and powering through. If this post is still up then you can can be certain that I am still looking. I will take this down once I have found someone. We all know this can be like searching for a needle in a haystack. In either case, good luck in your search and in this new year. May the odds be ever in your favour.