I've always been drawn to human connection, spicy conversations, and the energy shifts of D/s. I'm seeking someone who shares my passion for exploring these dynamics.

I'm looking to meet a submissive (or sub-curious) woman to go on a great journey with. I'm 36 and based in Germany. I'm tall, in good shape, and I have blue eyes and brown hair. People tell me I have a cute smile and I get a lot of compliments about my voice and accent.

Attraction is a funny old thing, and I don't think that I have a type per se, but I do like women with passions, convictions, eagerness to learn and a curiosity about the world.

Some things I like:

- Fresh coffee with foamed oat milk in the sun
- Curiosity, desire to discover and unusual ideas
- Feeling really alive after sport or exercise
- Bracingly cold sunny days in winter
- Freshly pumped bike tyres
- Well-crafted sentences that pack a punch

Some things I don't:

- Crumbs under bare feet
- When the shower curtain sticks to my leg (shower curtains in general actually)

I'm based in Germany but not German and I travel a fair bit for work. That said, I would prefer Europe-based connections. If you're from further afield and you think our vibe might be lightning in a bottle then please feel free to reach out, but my intention is definitely to work towards meeting. I think that definitely adds a delicious layer of spice to the initial getting to know each other phase, and of course to the part that comes after.

I feel like I've always had an underlying relationship with kink. I remember certain games that we sometimes played as kids and I was always especially interested in ones that involved some sort of capture or punishment dynamic. As I grew older, that interest began to manifest itself in a teenage interest in BDSM erotica and porn, and later, into finding communities like this one. There wasn't much else to do where I grew up in so I had time to do a lot of ...research.

The mental and psychological aspects of BDSM really light my fire. Anything with a strong power exchange bent to it is likely to be my thing. I love reading about BDSM and power dynamics - the psychology behind it, theories on where these kinks and proclivities originate, people's experiences sordid stories, etc.

Being able to connect on a level that isn't solely sexual is important to me. I feel like a mental (or even an emotional) connection significantly enhances the experience when it comes to BDSM and playing and it would be great to find someone with whom I'm able to have a chat with, and, dare I say it, have a laugh with. That is: the 'vanilla' connection is crucial to underpinning all the other cool stuff that can be built on top.

My hobbies include hiking adventures to find cool swimming spots, anything to do with food (cooking, eating out, dinner parties), saunas, solo travel, playing sports (football especially), and reading interesting deep-dive articles and long-form essays. Big fan of the London Review of Books on a slow Sunday morning. I also like various games (pool, poker, board games, chess) and riding my bike around interesting cities.

Specific kinks can be discussed in the DMs, but hopefully you already have a flavour from what you've read so far.

I'll leave it there for now and I hope to hear from you if anything here has struck a chord or piqued your interest.