Hey all.

Regular dating apps are frustrating if you have certain proclivities and interests... It takes longer than it should to figure out whether sexual compatibility is there.

Wanted to try something new here in my search for a partner, providing quite a bit of detail about myself. Long term I’m looking to find the one for a (mostly) monogamous relationship, but I’m open to having fun along the way. You can decide how to use this information based on what you’re looking for. If all you’re looking for is something physical, then not all details below matter, but if you’re looking for companionship/a life partner then obviously a lot more needs to feel like a match. I’ll leave that up to you but please be clear about expectations when you reach out. At the end of the day, chemistry is about a lot more than checking boxes, but this is one place to start.

The physical: I’m 31, white, and blonde. I’ve been told I’m handsome. I’m a former athlete with a reward system that got tuned to love physical activity early on, as such, fitness is a really big hobby of mine. I work out in some shape or form (weight lifting, HIIT, yoga, distance running) almost every day. As a result I’m in great shape, — muscular, have abs and a V line.

The personal: I’ll start off by saying that I’m originally from Europe. I moved here for college 10 years ago. I speak a few different languages. Today I lead engineering at a startup in the city. People most often pick “curious” if they have to describe me in one word. My curiosity spans history, politics, technology, and philosophy, just to name a few. I love to read and unravel the how’s and whys of the world around us. I try to find time to travel as much as my job allows. I’m NOT an all-inclusive kind of traveler. You’re more likely to find me off the beaten path, often combining exploring food and culture with my love for the physical; — hiking, surfing, scuba diving or skiing.

Given my career, I see myself staying in New York for the foreseeable future. I’m not opposed to going elsewhere eventually, but for the moment, I love the life I have here, and the access to food and stimulation the city provides.

The sexual: I have a high sexual drive and many kinks. I lean dominant and I enjoy taking control of the scene, challenging and rewarding my sub. Some of my favorite kinks are; dirty talk, edging, bondage, breath play, spanking, oral, anal, and cum play. Group play is not off the table and the same goes for parties. I would be eager to share my partner if that was something she desired and needed.

I’ve found myself to get along best with people who are driven and relatively alpha in normal life but crave relinquishing control in the bedroom.

That was a whole wall of text. Excited to see if someone is interested. I’ve met some great people from Reddit in the past.

Lastly I’ll say that hygiene and safety are paramount. I’m recently tested and expect you to be as well.