Well hello there. I hope all is well as you are reading this. As the title states, I'm looking for a submissive.... my submissive.

I am a 31 year old male Dom looking for a D/s and romantic relationship with a submissive. I am bi, with a heavy lean toward female presenting people, but shoot your shot if you are interested, but please note that facial hair is a massive turn-off for me. (Really anything that could be attributed to the "bear" archetype, I suppose). Age isn't ultimately important with me, but I'm not interested in anyone younger than 21.

I am looking to start things online, but I want to be able to move things to in person within a few months. I currently live in Sussex County, so I am really only looking for someone within a 2 hour drive, as to make any potential meeting in the middle fair to both of us, and the closer the better, for obvious reasons.

I do not have a definite type, apart from female and submissive, though I do have a preference for someone shorter than myself.

I'm looking for long-term. Both halves of this are equally important to me, and I'm hoping to find someone who can be both romantic partner and the s in D/s.. I'm looking for someone who wants to talk daily, be it text or voice. Someone who wants to talk about everything, from the day-to-day and sfw, to their hobbies and interests outside of kink, to nsfw topics, and their sexual fantasies. Someone who matches my kinks and fetishes on the subby side of them. I divide those kinks by how important to me they are.

Must Haves: Gags; Spanking/Pain Based Punishments; Anal; Medium to Heavy Bondage; Verbal Degradation/ Humiliation; Collaring while in the D/s dynamic

Things I Enjoy: Remote Toy Control [lovense and similar]; Discreet Public Play; Chastity, Control/ Keyholding; Full Time Collaring; Discreet Public Bondage [gag under a face mask, rope harness, etc]; Corsets; Cosplay Fantasies; CNC, Wax Play; Sensory Deprivation

Things I can do Without but still enjoy: Latex; Electro Play; Ass to Mouth; Various Role Plays;

Interested in Trying, but never had Opportunity: Extreme Heels Training; Vaginal/Anal Stretching and Fisting; Ponygirl Play;

My Limits: Soft Limits [maybe someday with the right partner]: Being called Daddy, Piss play

Hard Limits [NEVER]: DDlg, Diaper Play, ABDL, Blood, Scat, and Vomit, Knife Play, Needle Play

Ultimately I am searching for a partner in life, and a slave in the dungeon. I am Monogamous and will not start something long term with someone who is not. However, I am open to FwB while not in a relationship.

As to myself outside of kink. I stand at 5'7", 210 lbs. I have shoulder length brown hair and brown eyes. I wear glasses. AuDHD I am a nerd who plays D&D weekly, and read at least 1 book a week. Im a frequent moviegoer and also enjoy Broadway shows. I build and collect various model kits and lego sets. I also paint miniatures for D&D. My interests cover a wider range than those, but they are the main ones.

No Snapchat. I won't hop to another app immediately. But if we hit it off, we can discuss moving off reddit in time.

So, if you think you might be interested in me, and have gotten this far, please send me a message, and include your favorite color to show you have actually read all of this. I'd love to hear from you.