Hey you! I’ve been dating through the apps for the past years, but after having had my dream relationship (kink-wise) end recently I don’t see myself going back to vanilla, so this might be a good place to look for :)

Before I tell you more about myself, I’ll give you some criteria of whom I’m looking for, so you can spare your and my time, if it doesn’t fit:

*red flags: drug addiction, narcissistic tendencies, short-term goals, bad communication, lack of self - awareness

*I'm heavily attracted and turned on by tattoos and an alternative/ goth/ emo/ punk - style... although I don't want to be superficial - I am and it is important to me that my partners looks match with mine (I hate myself for saying this, but I gotta be realistic here)

*I'm looking for a person with provider mindset, a protector, someone I can create a unity with but I'm not looking for someone who's caught up in a daddy role; I love you being naturally dominant and caring but please let's grow into a dynamic (e.g: pls don't call me sweet names before we've grown fond of each other, I really want to get to know someone and it gives me the ick when people act like they care about me, when there is no bond yet); also please be okay with me being there for you too. I love being spoiled, I love feeling like a princess, but I got to spoil you a bit too because I love crafting and being there for you when you're sad and although I like you to be "the man" in the relationship, I am a grown-up woman and I got to have responsibility for you and us too

*I deeply care about nsfw-parts of my relationship but I care more about really liking someone, about laughing together, planning a future, taking care of each other, shared interests, social activities; but concerning nsfw parts I'm a sub with masochistic tendencies but I'm not into degradation/ CNC etc., some of my kinks are: oral fixation, throating, pet play, breath play, spanking, praise, bondage, collars, ... but everything at the right time with enough trust and care

Since I've dated lots of people who were immature and or boring and or not attractive to me, this text is rather direct and that's also what I am. I'm always saying what I think and feel and some people love me for it, others can't stand me because of it. I have a big heart, I'm always available for talking and relationship work is a must for me. I'm very cooperative, communicative, caring. I love having fun together, giggling, sharing memes, watching reality tv, being playful. I love feeling desired and wanted, being a sweet angel for my person and looking at them with heart - eyes - I think the best foreplay is the one which goes on everyday all day, I love physical touch, I love little text - notes, sharing music, sharing an active life, where we have fun doing stuff together.

At the same time I value independence as in: I want us both to be able to take care of ourselves and to be supportive of growing individually. Although I don't believe that you shouldn't be dependent on each other, it's important to me to not become co-dependent. I want someone who WANTS to be with me, who I WANT to be with, but not someone who feels like he can't be alone and I don't want to feel like it too.

I go to the cinema a lot, enjoy watching different movies (right now I like dystopic, suspenseful stuff; but also sweet romantic, comedic, artistic indie movies); music wise I'm inbetween indie, midwest emo, emoviolence, some british rap - I'm turned on by making playlists for each other, so it's a big plus if we share the same taste in music. I'm heavily tattooed and I plan on being full body tattoed at some point. I look alternative and cute, blonde hair, on the smaller and curvy side. I study and am interested in psychology, sociology, politics, literature - oh talking politics I'm queer-feminist and I support the freedom of palestine. I don't need my partner to be actively politic, but they should be aware of their privileges and align with my values.

I'm okay with long-distance but since I'll be studying for at least three to four years and I really like being together with my partner I'm not looking for someone I can't see regulary. I plan on having kids some day. I have a platonic life - partner. I smoke and take drugs occasionally and I like taking drugs with partners, but I'd rather never take drugs than to be with someone who's abusing drugs. I like spending time at home reading, doing puzzles, quizzes, boardgames, cooking, baking, playing video games, watching movies but I want someone who has fun in taking walks, playing table tennis, going swimming, to the movies, bars - I like a social and active life :)

After being so brutally honest about what I'm looking for, I hope to hear from you. When you write me please ask me something, tell me your age/ location and what resonated with you. Give me a little introduction hehe but pls make it natural lol.

GER and EN welcome.

Kisses L <3