Hello,

I am a 45 year old single man, pretty fit, educated, a good career I am proud of, and for the most part happy with life. I’m a native New Yorker that has my own place (a great space for exploring and no roommates) and feel pretty well rounded. I’m looking for a real, ongoing connection in some way. Open to starting slow and see what may blossom. I am experienced and not looking for any players or games.

I’m an experienced dominant guy which is my primary orientation. I’m also a little experienced with submission. Thus, I am hoping to make a connection with either a sub, or possibly a sub-leaning switch.

I’m a pretty balanced guy, I like to go out with friends, explore the city, have drinks on occasion, check out museums, bands, some intellectual pursuits, I love biking, soccer, rock climbing. I consider myself balanced and emotionally stable. I also feel like I have a good amount of skills and interests, I have a background in public health, teaching, film, and philosophy. I especially love film, jazz, and intellectual curiosity, always learning. I like to cook, and especially bake healthy versions of desserts, and enjoy good communication and conversation.

I have a strong history of being taking on the dominant role in the bedroom, and we can talk more about this in the chat. My style is to focus on the emotional and mental and psychological aspects of ceding control, being vulnerable and exploring boundaries. I especially love strict bondage, some primal play, and orgasm control. I’ve taken classes in shibari, spanking, role-play and other things so I don’t consider myself a newbie, exploring power dynamics is something I greatly enjoy and I do so thoughtfully, safely, and want both parties to feel pleasure. I prefer someone experienced, but if you are new to this feel free to reach out and we can see if there’s a connection.

Having a connection is a prerequisite for me as I don’t do one night stands and only want to spend time with people I enjoy and respect. Ultimately I would want to have a nice ongoing kinky connection, whether it’s play partners or something developing more seriously.

If possible, please include age, location, and some sort of physical description in your message just to weed out all the spam

thank you