Hi everybody, it's me: an internet sadist. I'm also a real life Dom and sadist, but I've found it oddly difficult to find people in my general area with similar desires. I'm looking for people who are ideally relatively local to me, who want to do scenes involving pain of various kinds. I'm also into rough and degrading sex (as the top), so we can do a bit of that too.

This is going to be a long post, so be prepared. I want to get as much detail out there as is comfortable. I'd prefer to meet people within my own country, but I do find myself in Australia (mainly Brisbane) about 2-3 times a year. Open to online, but l would like to be able to meet you in person at some point.

Everyday me: I'm 30, tall and beardy, live in a little Pacific country (in the title.) I like writing, making art, DIY, cooking, outdoorsy stuff, and other miscellaneous hobbies I should stop collecting. Polyamorous, currently with one partner. Very cuddly and affectionate outside my, ah, other proclivities. Filthy pinko/leftie.

The juicy stuff: I'm pansexual, but I do have a preference for femme, androgynous or gender-queer people. I don't have a rigid age range. But in general I feel most comfortable with people 23-45. It's more about vibes, so if you're younger or older than that, don't be afraid to message anyway.

I can just be the big mean top who does scenes of torture (and even incredibly degrading sex) with you. I'll be happy. But my favourite thing is being the firm, cruel, but relatively soft-spoken Dom who will treat you like little more than a sex toy and canvas for torture. Then rub salve into your wounds, hold you close, pat your hair, make you a hot drink, and tell you you're gorgeous. Look, I'm not a total monster. I want you to feel like a person outside kink stuff.

We can work out what works between us. One of my favourite dynamics is where I have control over specific aspects of you, do things for my pleasure or entertainment, but let you suggest an alternative to my plans for you. A sort of deal with the devil situation, where you can bargain with me, but I'll get something in exchange. Bonus points if you like someone finding all your psychological soft spots and exploiting them in a kinky context. I won't do it without consent, but if you leave the door open....

I'm open to plenty of ideas on what your ideal dynamic is though. It's no fun if it's not good for both of us. However, I don't have the time and space in my life for a full-on TPE dynamic. Other than that, shoot your shot.

Kinks are... A doozy? Including: The obvious usual stuff like creampies, anal, oral, hair pulling. Giving impact play (I can go easy, but I'll beat the snot out of you and rip your skin to pieces if you let me) Body mods (ask me for more details) Facefucking (mouth/throat is honestly my favourite place for dick to go) Giving genital torture. The more painful the better. Bondage/restraints. Degradation and humiliation. Wet yourself, lick it up, and clean my boots with your tongue. I can be creative, don't worry. I'll treat you as badly as you'll let me. Pee/bladder control as a treat sometimes. Orgasm control and denial. Knife play, cutting, scars even. I love blood. Heat and branding. CNC. Anything that isn't life-threatening or potentially disability-causing but is painful or cruel in some way. Ever wanted to be tied to a chair and get some "enhanced interrogation"? I might object to the military industrial complex, but I'll be the CIA for you baby.

Soft limits: major permanent marks (that can come once I know you better), vomit, raceplay. Hard limits: damage to people's face or neck, causing a disability, dubious consent, scat, and snuff.