Good Evening! I typically go by Rai, and I have 10  years of experience as a Daddy Dom, and my goal is to find a partner and build a dynamic with her where she and I both grow in our roles  and develop as people. I want to serve my partner and facilitate her growth just as much as I crave for her to serve me because I’m not just a Daddy Dom, I’m a Service Dom, and I’m a hopeless romantic that spends entirely too much time planning dates and writing out love letters. So, I hope I’ll be able to outline below the ways that I might be the man you’re looking for.

Communication is key to me. I need consistent, and regular high quality emotional communication. I’m not interested in short texts or a lack of detail. I want to hear about you, your hopes, your dreams, your goals, your ideals. I want to know about your day, the good, the bad, and everything in between. I want a partnership where I share myself with my lady just as much as she shares herself with me.  I’m not looking for something casual. I’m interested in collaring and or marriage should things progress to that point. I'm well versed in BDSM and DDLG, less so in M/s dynamics, but I'm willing to learn should that be something important to you. I regularly seek out classes and books on BDSM and kink education.

I would also like to note that I’m very much a pleasure/soft dom and I practice what I call affectionate cruelty. Where I will taunt, tease, and punish my partner physically until she’s begging, pleading, desperate, and just can’t take it anymore while I’m making fun of her for being such a mess. ( Consensually, of course )  it just depends on the circumstance and my mood that day because I love to tease and create a slow build up. 

I’ve just graduated with a bachelors in computer science and I’ll be starting graduate school at Georgia tech to get my masters here soon. I’m also active in the gym, and I do have a plethora of nerdy hobbies such as gaming, anime, manga, comics, film ( I’m a huge horror and sci-fi buff ), and I’m expanding into cosplay and 3D printing. So, while I’m busy, if I’m partnered, I will happily make as much time for my partner as she wants or needs/as much as my time will allow.

 I’m actively in therapy because my mental and emotional health are extremely important to me, and I’m in the gym because my physical health is important to me as well. I put a lot of time and effort into building and maintaining myself so I want someone willing to do the same, especially when it comes to the emotional aspect of a relationship. And just to get what type of woman I’m attracted to out of the way, I love plus sized women and BBWs. I do not body shame, but I absolutely adore thick women  and part of the reason I’m in the gym is to be able to pick my woman up and carry/toss her around in the bedroom.  Physically speaking, I’m 6’10 ( yes, I can verify ) and 300 pounds, so please, don’t have any illusions of being too heavy. And yes, I would be honored to make you feel smol and safe around me. 

Though to be clear, I am not interested in a relationship that’s purely sexual or purely D/s based, I want both. I want to build a friendship, a partnership, romance and so much more. And should things progress I’m more than happy to move at the pace of the woman by my side, because I want my partner to feel safe and comfortable at all times. I love discipline and control inside and outside of the bedroom I would want Kink to be a consistent thing in my relationship, not just in the bedroom. Honesty and good communication are extremely important to me and I’m extremely open minded, and affectionate.

 Quality time and intimacy are extremely, extremely important for me. As a busy man, I have no qualms about being in a relationship with a busy woman, but I need to feel desired, and like I’m a priority, not an option if a dynamic is established. Kink wise as mentioned above I’m a pleasure/soft Dom and I absolutely adore body worship so I’d love to practice that with you if that’s something you’re comfortable with should our conversations go well.

 As for my hobbies, I’m big into gaming, anime, manga, comics, and literature and I’d be happy to discuss them at length with you, particularly sci-fi, fantasy, and horror. ( Deep Space 9 and Babylon 5 fans UNITE! )  My gaming habits are mainly solo RPGs because I’m a big fan of story based games, yeah you’ve got your common ones like Baldurs Gate 3 but I absolutely adore deep, narrative rich adventures like the Kiseki franchise, Greedfall, visual novels like Danganronpa, The Nonary Games and AI The Somnium files, and I would love to introduce you to them as well. I want romance. I want passion. I want intimacy. I want to make memories with my partner that neither of us will ever forget. I’m looking for a life partner, not a temporary fling. 

Oh, and I’ll leave you with my favorite quote, but it isn’t from a TV show, it’s from Brandon Sanderson’s Stormlight archive “Life, before death. Strength before weakness. Journey before destination.” Without getting into spoilers, that quote is emblematic of the way that the Knights Radiant in that world live, a group of people with special powers that have united to be able to defend those that can’t defend themselves against the forces of the encroaching darkness.  And it inspired me to remember that there is always another mountain to climb, always another lesson to learn, and always more to do, so I’m always looking to learn, grow, develop, and become a better man. If anything I’ve mentioned here is interesting to you, please feel free to reach out. I hope you have a wonderful evening.