If you are an attentive Dom that has a kink that includes helping your sub evolve into their best self through accountability, TPE, orgasm control (rewards/denial), and more then I might be the sub for you!

First, and most importantly, I am happily married and my spouse and I have a healthy sex life with our own kinks that we like to explore. For me, having a secret Dominant is a HUGE kink that I do not wish to share with my husband. I will not tolerate a Dom who wants to speak lowly of my spouse, however I do welcome a Dom who would like to give me directives to take back to the bedroom to play out and I am happy to share the results. (Though this is not a requirement in any way - we can also ignore the fact that I have a husband entirely, if that is your preference)

Moving on from that and more about what I'm looking for:

My primary goal is to have a Dom who wants to help shape me into my best self through aspects of control:

• I'm not a BBW (more of an average build), but I do need to get into better shape - do you want to design a fitness plan for me or hold me accountable to my own plan?

• I'm improving my diet - will you make sure I stick to it?

• I run several businesses outside of my regular day-to-day job, will you help hold me accountable to completing tasks necessary to grow my business?

• I'm not always motivated to present myself the best (too tired, too much work, etc) - will you pick my outfits and tell me how to wear my hair for the day?

This is not meant to be an all inclusive list, these are just a few areas in which I know I need assistance and am looking for help.

You might be asking... So why not get a life coach or something????

I am highly sex motivated, and the idea of someone controlling me in that manner to achieve my goals is a huge kink for me. I really want to be a good girl... I just can't do it on my own.

Other requirements:

• Must be highly communicative - I'm not looking for someone who takes all day to respond, and I am very fond of good morning/good night rituals. The more you can talk throughout the day, the better, especially to hold me accountable! (I'm in US - CST time zone) This doesn't have to be all about the kink, we can be friends too! After all, that's how trust is built.

• Must respect my limits - I don't have too many, but when I speak up, I'm serious about it, and am usually open to discussing why it's a limit and if it's a permanent limit or something we can work toward. (and some things can be overcome with time and trust, but I need to feel like I've been heard)

• Looking for someone who is fairly to very fit (otherwise how will you truly hold me accountable to my fitness goals) and at least moderately attractive (because I would like to mutually share pics in the long run)

Top kinks include: TPE, Orgasm control (especially tied to rewards/punishments, but never total denial), edging, decorative/honorary collaring/cuffs, & plugging my pussy when not in use

Hard limits: Blood, scat, body harm, anal, degradation, humiliation, anything that could hurt my career or relationship

There is certainly a lot more that I could write about, but we can discover those things together. To prevent bots and not-serious responders - Please send me a chat telling me a little bit about your past experience as a Dom, if you've ever had an accountability type relationship before, a description of yourself and what drew you to my post. Bonus if you share a selfie - you'll go to the top of my list to reply to (and likely get one in return)!