First and foremost, I’d like to say this is NOT a post looking for a unicorn. I am looking for a real connection, with possible long term implications. This isn’t merely sexual and I seek for more than that.

About me:

I am a Dominant residing in Spain, that learned about BDSM from younger ages. I have a lot of experience in the field, having had plenty of submissives for shorter periods and longer periods; all depending on the arrangement.

However, I felt like a lot of people go straight to sexual when we talk about BDSM and my perception is different. I feel like BDSM is a conexion past the bedroom and, for that reason, I find hard to click with modern day submission. I guess in certain aspects of my life I am oriented towards traditional BDSM values, but in others I am up to date. To expand on that, let me tell you about what I look for.

What I want:

I am looking for someone that does not see this as inherently sexual but is looking for a genuine connection. I am looking for someone that likes traditional BDSM values of servitude. Ideally you look for a man that will guide and nurture you, not just have kinky sex (that too tho). You are looking for someone that will mold you into what He wants and gently build your sense of self under his protection. You are looking specifically for someone emotionally intelligent, capable of dealing with whatever goes on in your head (no matter what) and pushing you to be better.

Now onto the modern values. You are looking for someone that understands freedom of self in a sense. Someone that upholds (alas, slightly) certain respectful values and allows you to experiment on your sense of self so long as you are under His wing. To sum it up, you want someone that will allow you freedom inside of a big cage. So long as you do not go out of where you belong, you can explore yourself and form your own opinions. After all, my goal is to find someone that, after properly trained, has such devotion to me that she already knows what I would do and how I want things.

I’d like to add that, like the title implies, I’d like it to be a submissive family but I’d prefer to discuss that privately.

If this post resonated with you send me a chat message and let’s see how compatible we are.