Are you bored of seeing posts that vary little from each other and submissives offering complete submission after merely an hour of light chatting? Are you looking for something more substantial?

I'm looking for a natural dominant whose need for control is inherent and unchangeable. It is not a role he puts on, he is defined by it even when he is not thinking in d/s terms. Someone who knows that submission has to be earned, and he has to put in the work to get something that is worth holding onto. A man who knows he doesn't need ropes, blindfolds and whips to exert his will and make the submissive get in line. Someone he uses his wits, silver tongue, manipulation, seduction, mind games without the other noticing and knows that what he wants can only be achieved gradually. A person who takes as much control as he can, and his power doesn't end in the bedroom.

Does it mean that there could be no affection and fun? Absolutely not. It is still a normal relationship, can even look vanilla if wanted/needed, but the boundaries the dominant set are always present in one way or another. The d/s elements are never turned off, they are always there with different intensity.

Does it mean there is no sex? Of course not. I'm very much a sexual being myself and open to various kinks. But I don't see the bedroom as a mean to gain power. Sexual activities naturally benefit from the previously established power dynamic. I'm not looking for a quick fuck.

Why am I worthy of your attention? Because I have done this before and I'm good at it. I'm definitely not the easiest sub to handle, but once you have earned my submission I'm exceedingly loyal. It's not just you putting in effort and getting to know me, it's the other way around as well. I learn to anticipate needs, sense moods and read the room. Serve with my mind, actions and body. My natural state is submission and it can be as intense as worship with the right dominant. Once the dynamic is established my focus is always on the dominant.

So, I'm looking to build a connection, a relationship that has an unbalanced power dynamic base, but involves everything that a vanilla connection might have. I want to get to know you and I want you to get to know me. I someone who puts in effort and I match it. It is always a risk for the dominant, he can never know whether he is wasting his time, I am aware. See if I'm worth it.

If you got this far, message me. Please don't just say 'Hello!', write about what caught you attention, what kind of person you are.

I AM NOT LOOKING FOR ANY KIND OF POLY ARRANGEMENT. NO INSTANT SUBMISSION.