Looking for the kind of girl who will enjoy deep conversations with a bit of wit about her. Someone who puts on a good front, but ultimately in private desires to be on her knees, with her will taken out of the equation. The type whose brain chemistry is stimulated when following instructions to the letter with something around the neck once the working day is done. The type to be adored by friends and family and play the part of the free-spirited girlfriend, only to tear off the mask when the doors are shut. If any of that sounds appealing to you then please read on.

About Me

I am a 30 year old white male with dark hair and dark eyes that mask dark intentions. I stand at 185cm (6' 1'' for you imperials) and weigh around 90kg. I am broad shouldered with big arms from lifting and putting down reasonably heavy objects. I would consider myself pretty well educated and read with two science degrees, but am happy to be proven otherwise. I work in pharmaceuticals and reside in the North West of the UK.

Recently got out of a pretty vanilla relationship and thought I would post an ad to test the water so to speak. Since I am single again I have been craving a darker dynamic that I used to explore in my earlier twenties. I figured we only get one go at this life so why settle for anything less than what you truly want.

I have past experience as a dominant from both short and long term dynamics. This has been with people as inexperienced as complete virgins who have come out the other side with horizons truly extended. Not to blow my own trumpet too much, but from the occasional catch ups and briefings the education tends to stick in the grey matter.

I would describe myself as pretty nerdy (as much as someone on reddit tends to be). However, this does not mean I am antisocial or a recluse. I enjoy live music, bars, restaurants and most social outings.

I am very much into music and going to gigs so here is a list of bands/artists I currently vibe with: English Teacher, IDLES, Deftones, Gorillaz, Kendrick Lamar, Tyler the Creator, Fontaines DC, Wunderhorse, Bloc Party, Fightstar, MF DOOM, The Black Keys, Foals, QOTSA, Death from Above 1979 and many more.

I am not particularly outdoorsy, but I have been known to do some long distance running or walks/hikes. I have signed up for another half marathon this year for example, as running tends to be my cardio of choice. I also frequent the gym a few times a week to keep my body in check from the hard yards of the beer and foodie lifestyle.

In real life I am described by my friends as very happy go lucky, smiley and laid back. I mix this up with a sarcastic wit and enjoy a bit of back and forth when socialising. Previous partners have commented on how surprised they were about my shift in demeanour in and out of the bedroom. I guess over the years I have gotten good at hiding it, or am perhaps more physically motivated with my blood running hot. I am not a cold 50 shades dominant 24/7, and never will be, but that doesn't mean I am not capable of it.

What I am looking for

Someone ideally within the age range of 21-34. Anything outside of this will need some convincing. I am attracted to educated women with a good career and/or goals and dreams, but who likes to loosen their grip on the reigns of life when in private.

Sharing interests in TV, film, music, board games etc is highly important to me. I am looking to travel some more places so someone who wants to come with me to Japan/South America/Canada/South Asia is big plus. Politically I am left leaning, whilst not an activist I would likely not vibe with a conservative or right wing idealist.

Physically I have little outright preferences, but I would state I am not into someone who is unhealthily overweight. That doesn't mean I don't like curvy body types or am after a ridiculous body standard, but I do want to be with someone who looks after and invests in themselves as much as I do.

I am open to short term so don't hesitate to contact if unavailable but ideally the long term would be true love and a life partner. I firmly believe both can be achieved through the dynamic. My preference would be someone in the UK or Europe but I would consider other locations for short term play. But bear in mind I have a serious career and so cannot always accommodate for time zone differences.

Kink-wise I enjoy dynamics such as: restraint, begging, blindfolds, collaring, edge play, latex (on you), degradation, gags, spanking, hypnosis, free use, orgasm control, breath control, breeding, pet play.

Limits

Punching, Blood, Scat, Knives, anything that leaves permanent damage or disfigurement. I'm sorry at some point this shit can get unhealthy and I don't want to kill anybody, death is tremendously unsexy.

Apologies but I am not looking for age regression or a little dynamic, the dynamics I enjoy revolve around control of a fully developed independent woman. No judgement just taste.

I am also a purely monogamous person. Again no judgement if you are poly, I am just not the sharing type when it comes to emotional connection and intimacy.

If you are still here at the end of my Iliad of a personal ad I would love to hear from you. Type "need" in your intro message so I know you are serious. Happy to exchange pics at an early outset as I recognise physical attraction is a cornerstone of any successful relationship.