Look, don't get me wrong, I love pinning a girl down and ravaging her until she can barely move or form coherent sentences as much as the next dom, and I'm definitely looking for that, as well, but what I really fantasize about is someone with whom I can cuddle up with on a cold winter's day, watching movies, or talking about our hobbies, or just basking in each other's presence. Possibly while making out or feeling each other up, I am a huge fan of casual physical contact (and free use in general, within established boundaries). I'm a diehard romantic, and I want a sub that I can also take out and annoy everyone I know with lovey-dovey displays of mutual affection. :p

To get into the minimum basics of what I'm looking for, please be: close to my age (30-40 preferred but it's not a hard cutoff), single and ready to commit (assuming we click), a non-smoker (of tobacco, specifically, the other stuff is fine), someone who wants kids (and ideally doesn't have them yet), and left wing (trans rights, ACAB, Free Palestine, voted for Kamala, etc.).

Maybe it's because I've been a dom for almost my entire adult life, but I've found that it's much easier to find good sex than it is to find a good relationship, so I'm focusing on the latter these days. I want a partner who's ready to commit, and who shares my passion for learning and assorted indoorsy nerd activities (if you enjoy tabletop RPGs like D&D, I'm immediately interested). I'm a creative, intellectual type, and I'd rather walk around a museum than a nature trail, and I hope you're the same way. I'll also say, I'm not into trad anything. I like women who aren't afraid to speak their minds, who are fully capable of being strong and independent, but still crave a safe space in which they can let go and submit to someone they find worthy. I like to take care of my subs just as much as I like being taken care of. I find the ideal for me is when we're both prioritizing each other's pleasure, because as attentive as I can be towards others, I'm often neglectful of myself, usually without even noticing until suddenly I burn out or am in pain, etc.

As a dom, I'm very much focused on pleasure, teasing, psychological play, overstimulation, and so on. I like to get in my partner's head, learn everything about her, so I can make her feel good both in and out of the bedroom. I'm fairly adaptable, I can work with a wide variety of kinks, but I'll admit that I don't have much enthusiasm for degradation or inflicting pain outside of fairly light, playful stuff (a bit of spanking or light choking can be fun, but much more than that and it doesn't do much for me even if I can technically do it). I tend to be a little protective and possessive, but not in a controlling way, I just like to remind my sub that they're mine (I'm not really the jealous type, though, because I don't consider other men a threat). Control outside the bedroom for me consists mostly of free use (within reason), but if a partner wants, I'm comfortable with wardrobe control. However, I don't love micromanaging stuff like diet, daily schedule, etc. I'm not looking to run anyone's life.

Physically, I'm 6'3", I've got it on good authority that I'm fairly handsome, and I'm reasonably well-endowed. That said, you should probably be into dad bods, because I'm definitely not skinny. I'm comfortable swapping pics to establish if there's mutual attraction, if we find we connect, but I don't insist on it, given the kinds of risks women take when they share pics of themselves.

Anyway, this was kind of rambly, and if you made it to the end and are interested, feel free to reach out to me via messages or chat. Please include what you enjoyed about my post and the ways in which you think we'll connect, just so I know you read it, as I generally ignore low-effort messages. Thank you very much for reading, and have a nice day.