Hey Reddit,

This post will be relatively length, simply because we think that helps you decide if we're people you'd like to meet better! PS: there's a recent picture of us in our profile.... However, feel free to just message us if your eyes glaze over at long walls of text.

TLDR: Attractive, semi-experienced ENM couple who is looking for a third that we can have fun with outside and in the bedroom. Hes a 35M (he/him), Attractive, intelligent, creative and experienced demi-sexual Dom who loves kind, intelligent subs. Emphasis on kind. Shes 24F (she/her), experienced bi and switchy, also attractive, intelligent, artsy, creative and thoughtful who loves sexy, intelligent women. We both care about the person first, before sex, and believe in the golden rule: leave somebody better than when you met them.

You
You're an attractive sub who loves being objectified; being held down and fucked as your brain floats away and your existence melts into pleasure. Or maybe you like being tied up and retrained and made to cum until you cant handle it anymore. Ideally, you love the mental aspects of BDSM, like orgasm control, objectification, etc. You like feeling totally helpless, and you are intrigued by the idea of having two people dominate you together. We want to lead you into the dark and make you more sexually free and confident and to further on your own path towards kink fulfillment, never-ending orgasms, and happiness.

Why are we seeking a third? Hes been ENM for many years now and finds it quite fulfilling. Hes hierarchical poly, in that she is his number 1 partner, but hes had great experiences as a secondary partner in other peoples relationships before. Shes newer to poly but loves it in practice so far, its important to her to have freedom, and the idea of seeing him dominate another sexy woman, and also being with that woman, turns her on. She also wants to explore her dominant side in a safe way.

More About Us:
He's very tall (6'4") while she is closer to average (5'4") and both have fit bodies and we eat healthy. He has blue eyes and sandy brown hair and a strong jaw, she also has a strong jaw, very dark hair (think dark irish or italian) and gets compliments frequently on her beauty.
We're both clean and tested as of of 3 weeks ago. We only have 1 other partner that we see (separately) at the moment, and as demi-sexuals, we like to only be with people who's personalities we connect with. You would be somebody we'd hopefully keep seeing over the long term, but we are open to different arrangements.

Interests
She's really into art and painting, and works in the art industry. He's also in a creative field. We both love interesting literature, and try to read more than we actually accomplish. We''re both extremely liberal, and ideologically would like to "eat the rich". Currently hes reading "trust exercises" and she's reading "polysecure". We both love to travel and are big into Europe, her last trip was Austria and his Norway. We also both love all types of plants and gardening, and all types of animals but especially both cats and dogs (he has an adopted cat, and she has a rescued labradoodle). We can both host, but she has an incredible massive loft-style condo that usually stokes envy in most who visit it. Some other stuff we love: Romcoms, walks, dining al fresco, mediterranean towns, pasta, sex, wine, beauty, dismantling capitalism, snl, british baking show, fitness.

Deep, dark, kinky mind:
His biggest kinks always circle around objectification and submissive training. Both kinks are mutually synergistic - hes like taking somebody and molding her to be the perfect object, to be a perfect good girl. Specifically, that's things like edging, deepthroat training, orgasm control and conditioning (both orgasming on command and training to get aroused from blowjobs or anal), anal training, teaching you to dress in a certain way that pleases him, unlocking your fantasies, position practice, health and wellness training, and other aspects of general daily control in service of his goals.

She is newer to kink, and generally takes a submissive role in the bedroom, but can be quite switchy and loves to be dominant over other women. Normally she enjoys "turning her brain off" in a sexual situation, but she wants to explore her dominant side more.

What Makes a Good Dynamic Shared kinks, yes, but to us there are a few things that really make things feel just right. Emotional connection and shared personality match is paramount. Additionally, safety, security, and trust are all critical, and are general non-negotiables. Our first rules are always about honesty and trust around communication and safety. Especially since any type of dynamic carries risks. Much communication upfront is critical before we can decide on anything, so don't expect us to jump right into a dynamic. We also don't really do ONS. Upfront connection is the only way that we can ensure we'll have a good time sexually.

Deal breakers Our biggest deal breakers are people with severe mental inconsistencies (as weve been hurt in the past), people who abuse the trust of others, people who struggle to communicate their needs, wants, and problems effectively, and people who are extremely religious or conservative.

Location/Style We really are only interested in somebody local (anywhere in the Maryland/Virginia/Philly DMV area we consider local). If you're not within an hour or two by car or train we find it hard to connect on a real level. Don't let that stop you from messaging though.

Thanks for reading this far, good job! If any of this caught your interest, you are welcome to send us a message to see if we're a good fit!