Kink has been an area that I'd like to exclusively explore with the right local and single play partner or LTR partner. The cornerstone of that is a foundation built on getting to know each other and having patience for the process of building mutual trust to figure out if there's shared interest in playing together.

Sexual exclusivity only.

I'm looking to explore my femdom side with a partner who has responsible conversations around each other's sexual health and doesn't use any substances who also shares my values around proactively building a SFW connection first and navigating continuous consent and its evolution as we explore.

That said, I'm into making a man cry and licking this tear-streaked cheeks, while wearing lingerie and fetish outfits and controlling his orgasms as they're lightly restrained to a bed or chair. A tear rolling down his cheek inspires me to pamper him, and I want a partner equally eager to pamper me in return - a submissive open to service top on occasion. Restraint-wise, I'm looking to explore with soft materials, nylon rope or neckties, and outfits I enjoy include a fitted business suit (on him), or button-down and slacks, or a sleek black military outfit. I like dressing up in plaid skirts, cat ears and collars, and think the sexy nurse and librarian aesthetic is appealing - that's the aesthetic I want to go for and play with. Roleplay themes would be seduction and raw carnality with a hint of spice. It's important that any partner would be into trying this with me.

At the same time, I want both of us to be proactive in sharing our frameworks and understanding of consent negotiations from the get-go. I only negotiate-in/opt-in for kink play and the below list is the only kinks on the table for now. I'd like us to be comfortable sharing our relevant kinks, safety checks, and hard limits and would appreciate somone who's done their own fair share of learning about kink and what appeals to them as I have for myself.

About me: In the vanilla space, my hobbies range from webnovels and webtoons to climbing and enjoying the scenery, reading up on emotions and connecting with people. Watching stand-up comedy crowd-work is so vivacious! Weekends: at the park/getting fresh air, at a cafe, or cozying up to a book with tea. Travel: stay-cations with the occasional month-long annual vacation elsewhere. I find delving into podcasts and mediums around the relationship with others and self so interesting and deep talks I enjoy involve the Gottmans', Forest Hanson's work and on how to make relationships a more connected experience and holding space for simply being around each other and play. I strive for and appreciate a balance of curiosity, light-heartedness and thoughtfulness. My intention is to co-create emotional trust with someone I vibe with such that we can appreciate our differences as a team and work towards repair when relational ruptures happen.

Lazy Sundays cuddling and enjoying each other's company is my vibe. I prefer slowing down and relaxing over hitting goals and focusing on productivity.

East Asian, 5'4", single, physically slim. Switch with high emotional intimacy and physical affection needs. Seeking someone similar who most importantly emotionally self-regulates to approach relationship-building with open and flexible communication.

What I’m seeking:

Someone who my nervous system is at ease with when I interact with them, with whom we both can make changes when either of our unmet needs come up. A connection to just "be" ourselves in (that's what I appreciate about reddit, for all its flaws), feeling like we can unwind around each other and build mutual trust to also explore shared kinks. It’s important to me from the outset we respect each other's comfort levels and expressed needs to foster trust and increased capacity for progressive vulnerability. I'm looking for someone equally willing to try building an intimate, connected relationship that balances heart-to-heart conversations and playful curiosity.

Each time we show up for potentially hard yet human conversations, the relationship becomes more sustainable. We practice tuning into when our stuff comes up during conflict with check-ins as appropriate. We're both clear on what we want to try to build our connection and can be comfortable expressing our limits (both in and out of the bedroom) in a judgement-free zone.

Please be between the ages of 26-40 and be lean-average, and have a comment/post history. No throwaway accounts or anyone who already disrespects my boundaries stated here, including my non-negotiables. I only engage with intros that align with my post.

Basic non-negotiable requireds:

• Also similar in terms of: local, single, willing to have a conversation around each other's sexual health risk profile and be fully tested before any intimacy, non-smoker of any substances

• Shares compatible intentions around also seeking a monogamous relationship and the capacity to emotionally self-regulate, kink-positive

• Willingness to repair around relational ruptures/conflict. Understands that I am also learning and growing alongside them

• Between the ages of 26-40, submissive open to service topping

• Lean side of average body type

• Proactively navigates conversations around consent, checking in with each other

• Mutually takes accountability for expressing and rectifying any boundary oversights or missteps

• Considerate and mutually interested in helping each other finish or find fulfillment when playing

• Patient and understanding in taking time to build trust and getting to know each other as human beings first

• Also interested in exploring dacryphilia (him crying), outfits/roleplay, light restraints, orgasm control

• We feel comfortable with each other, including negotiating together

Other preferences: Cries easily, Into giving oral, Clean-shaven or short tidy beard that won't cause UTIs with oral (or oral will be off the table), people who can vibe with this post.

I respond to messages that reflect the vibe/depth I'm looking for and provide the below in the first message:

1. Include your basics (age/height/ethnicity, physique, relevant values and intentions, interests, etc.) and references to my non-negotiables.

2. How do you self-regulate during conflict and how do you engage in conflict conversations with a partner in this context?

Looking forward to connecting with someone who writes a relevant introduction, provide a SFW face and full-body photo within a week or so of talking, and is ready for a virtual vibe-check.